moment of weakness :*(
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Originally Posted by thisgirl81 
I totally understand where you are coming from. I actually deactivated my facebook for the first time ever. I felt that I had to do this because it was keeping me stuck in this hell and I was obsessing. I have also come to realize that As (at least my A) don't even have the ability to have feelings like we do. Be glad that you have feelings and that you aren't numbed down like him and be thankful that he is out of your life. They are selfish and want what is most convenient-it's not really about love for them, it's about them trying to fill a void or using someone to get something. It's really a sad existence. I'm sorry for your loss, that must be terrible, especially when the person you love isn't there for you (I know what that is like). Keep working on yourself and good things will come, it may not be easy, but in the long run, you will be happy he is gone.
Losing a pregnancy is sad, but I am so very glad I do not have to have a child with this man.
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I think in this case the internet is a curse. It's so easy to keep track of people now. I mean in some ways it's great. I do agree to continue to go back to his page will not let you move on. As an alcoholic, I didn't ever think of other people. It was how I could do what I wanted to do. I have a friend who was worried her boyfriend was cheating. My thinking was that if she was worried ask. She had a friend look at his profile. And then she obsessed about looking at his profile and when he was on. In the end he had seen this other person. You deserve someone that cares about you and doesn't have to hide behind being condescending and cruel. Anyway just my 2 cents.
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Originally Posted by tomthern
I think in this case the internet is a curse. It's so easy to keep track of people now. I mean in some ways it's great. I do agree to continue to go back to his page will not let you move on. As an alcoholic, I didn't ever think of other people. It was how I could do what I wanted to do. I have a friend who was worried her boyfriend was cheating. My thinking was that if she was worried ask. She had a friend look at his profile. And then she obsessed about looking at his profile and when he was on. In the end he had seen this other person. You deserve someone that cares about you and doesn't have to hide behind being condescending and cruel. Anyway just my 2 cents.
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Obsession is one of the hardest things to break IMO. I've had that overwhelming Need too and I always explained it as having a second person inside you that absolutely must do whatever it is and the first person has no choice. I had access to my xabfs FB and it was torture. The opportunity to check up on him, to see what he was saying about me to other people and how he was acting was too much for me to walk away from. And, what happened to me after I'd found out all these things? I got hurt. If I hadn't been in there I wouldn't have known he'd slept with another woman. While that turned out to be a blessing since it made me stop seeing him, the pain that has followed since is taking a while to get through.
But, all it really did was keep me tied to him. His world, his life, his whereabouts. The focus went on him and her, wondering about things that just shouldn't matter.
Im thankful he changed his password for whatever reason. I needed that to happen for me to stop. There are angels looking out for you, too.
But, all it really did was keep me tied to him. His world, his life, his whereabouts. The focus went on him and her, wondering about things that just shouldn't matter.
Im thankful he changed his password for whatever reason. I needed that to happen for me to stop. There are angels looking out for you, too.
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Originally Posted by NorthofWest
And, I haven't told anyone this but since losing the pregnancy i feel like i have a guardian angel now. There's been little things here and there that have made me think that there's someone looking out for me. I can't explain it really .....but I guess I felt it tonight, which prompted me to look. I know it sounds crazy...
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Originally Posted by itsmylifenow
Obsession is one of the hardest things to break IMO. I've had that overwhelming Need too and I always explained it as having a second person inside you that absolutely must do whatever it is and the first person has no choice. I had access to my xabfs FB and it was torture. The opportunity to check up on him, to see what he was saying about me to other people and how he was acting was too much for me to walk away from. And, what happened to me after I'd found out all these things? I got hurt. If I hadn't been in there I wouldn't have known he'd slept with another woman. While that turned out to be a blessing since it made me stop seeing him, the pain that has followed since is taking a while to get through.
But, all it really did was keep me tied to him. His world, his life, his whereabouts. The focus went on him and her, wondering about things that just shouldn't matter.
Im thankful he changed his password for whatever reason. I needed that to happen for me to stop. There are angels looking out for you, too.
But, all it really did was keep me tied to him. His world, his life, his whereabouts. The focus went on him and her, wondering about things that just shouldn't matter.
Im thankful he changed his password for whatever reason. I needed that to happen for me to stop. There are angels looking out for you, too.
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