Thumper

Every state is different but in mine you get a lawyer and go to court. The judge eventually makes things happen if one party refuses to participate.

Dr Strangelove

Well the marriage counseling went so so. My wife claims she's going to stop drinking. I don't but it for one second. No way can she go cold turkey when she's consuming that much alcohol.

seek

Haven't read all of the replies, but the welfare of your kids should be Numero Uno.

Can someone with experience suggest how to keep the kids safe? Obviously, you can't leave and leave the kids with her. Maybe see an attorney, start documenting her behavior and perhaps see if you could get sole custody? Doesn't sound like you have much of a marriage, so if you could get custody of your kids, that may be in their best interests. Otherwise, they are being "cared" for by a drunk mom. Not good.

Mango blast

Have either of you been given options and/or guidance on how to quit like names and numbers of Licensed addiction specialists, rehabs, detox center, etc.?
You're right that it's not so easy to say you're quitting and just do that.

Dr Strangelove

No one has said anything in regards to detox at this point. I have done a lot of reading, that's about it. She is still in denial she had "just one drink" last night

unsureoffuture

My AH does this frequently. In fact, that is our cycle. I confront him, he promises to quit "cold turkey", he moderates his drinking by "cutting back" significantly for a period of time, gbets better at hiding it and then when I am in his good graces again he slowly creeps back to the level of drinking he was previously at or worse and the cycle begins again!

No one can make someone quit until they are personally ready to quit. A's are very very good at lying, decieving and manipulating to maintain their addiction. If she were truly ready she would be doing anything and everything to get sober, embracing recovery and not "just having one drink".