He left me without a word
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Okay,so sorry you are going through this.
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Originally Posted by suddenlysingle 
Earthworm, no signs of foul play, the house was locked up as usual. His car isn't anything anyone would want to steal. And I told them he's an alcoholic who'd gone on benders in the part, although not for more than 8 years.
Shorter answer, they know it because that's what I told them.
Shorter answer, they know it because that's what I told them.
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Thanks so much, I have wondered if it could be anything else, and I suppose there's a slight chance he didn't run off. But I can't ignore his history.
Originally Posted by Earthworm
Okay,so sorry you are going through this.
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I'll join the dance troupe! A few years ago I did belly dancing (which I loved but had to stop as I kept putting my pelvis out...) and performed to a ***** cat dolls number...lol! And nearly 20 years ago I did Irish dancing and performed a number of times 
Oh the ***** bit refers to a colloquialism for cat!!!
Oh the ***** bit refers to a colloquialism for cat!!!
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Well, I hate to be the downer here, but my mom's 2nd husband(also an alcoholic) did something similar, but he did it to commit suicide by mixing alcohol and drugs. He did leave some messages on cell phones though, so that helped lead the police to know what was probably going on.
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Pixilation, I have definitely thought of that possibility too.
Today was hard because I put away the Christmas decorations. When I got to the "First Christmas" ornaments, I wanted to smash them! But I out them away instead. The wedding picture that usually sits on our mantle wasn't put back out, though!
Today was hard because I put away the Christmas decorations. When I got to the "First Christmas" ornaments, I wanted to smash them! But I out them away instead. The wedding picture that usually sits on our mantle wasn't put back out, though!
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Update for Everyone
thanksOn Monday, I found him...he's getting medical help and we'll see where we go from here.
He was in a motel not far from home. He had a credit card that I didn't know about and when the bill came I opened it and saw the charges. He told me he knew that I'd eventually get the information from the bill. In fact, he counted on it.
Thanks again for all of your support, advice, and kindness.
P&PT for you.
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Yes, I went to the therapist (through my company's EAP) and was given some coping strategies for dealing with his absence. She also recommended some steps to take when he returned.
Yesterday he and I attended a joint therapy session where I was really able to air my feelings about what he'd done and how it impacted me. We have another scheduled for next Wednesday and will continue those for a while, I'm sure. He's also seeing a psychiatrist and MD for treatment for both the alcoholism and his depression.
Yesterday he and I attended a joint therapy session where I was really able to air my feelings about what he'd done and how it impacted me. We have another scheduled for next Wednesday and will continue those for a while, I'm sure. He's also seeing a psychiatrist and MD for treatment for both the alcoholism and his depression.
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Originally Posted by suddenlysingle
Yes, I went to the therapist (through my company's EAP) and was given some coping strategies for dealing with his absence. She also recommended some steps to take when he returned.
Yesterday he and I attended a joint therapy session where I was really able to air my feelings about what he'd done and how it impacted me. We have another scheduled for next Wednesday and will continue those for a while, I'm sure. He's also seeing a psychiatrist and MD for treatment for both the alcoholism and his depression.
Yesterday he and I attended a joint therapy session where I was really able to air my feelings about what he'd done and how it impacted me. We have another scheduled for next Wednesday and will continue those for a while, I'm sure. He's also seeing a psychiatrist and MD for treatment for both the alcoholism and his depression.
I wish both of you the best. xooxo
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I am so glad you found him and that he is safe now!!!
My prayers to you both for your respective healing, however that plays out.
Stay connected to us here and don't forget that It is important to care for YOU too! We are here...
Kat
I am so glad you found him and that he is safe now!!!
My prayers to you both for your respective healing, however that plays out.
Stay connected to us here and don't forget that It is important to care for YOU too! We are here...
Kat
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I was so worried for you, not knowing what could possibly have happened. Xah has often disappeared for a spell and I always think he's been hurt or worse.
Now I want to take your A's arms in my hands and give him a firm shaking, then kick his **s out your door and throw something at his head while he's exiting for good measure. Then I want to change your locks, protect your bank accounts, block your phone and plug your ears before someone says his name aloud.
Please tell me you are furious by now and won't let him back in. I'm not worried about him any longer. I am worried about you.
Now I want to take your A's arms in my hands and give him a firm shaking, then kick his **s out your door and throw something at his head while he's exiting for good measure. Then I want to change your locks, protect your bank accounts, block your phone and plug your ears before someone says his name aloud.
Please tell me you are furious by now and won't let him back in. I'm not worried about him any longer. I am worried about you.
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