Need quick response
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Need quick response
My ex sent me a text tonite saying 'want to know what you want from me no f****** about'. I'm not sure how to respond and I'm not one for text communication. I want for him to address his issues ie. drinking and avoidant behaviour. Don't know what to do.....
I want for him to address his issues ie. drinking and avoidant behaviour. Don't know what to do.....
Now, if he is your ex, why are you texting with him at all.
Your friend,
I'd also say texting is not always the best way to have a conversation about your relationship. Things can get misread and misinterpreted.
Is there any rush to reply tonight? Perhaps sleep on it?
Is there any rush to reply tonight? Perhaps sleep on it?
Ah....hooks. Those little messages, texts, tweets, e-mails that keep us hooked in the world of a dysfunctional relationship.
Does his question really need an answer? Isn't this ground you have covered in conversations dozens of times already?
Whether or not your respond is up to you, of course. What do you think will happen if you DO respond?
Does his question really need an answer? Isn't this ground you have covered in conversations dozens of times already?
Whether or not your respond is up to you, of course. What do you think will happen if you DO respond?
Brightstar, Make it clear to him, give up the booze, and whatever else or get lost. Also think about the fact that a recovering addict is almost as dysfunctional as a active addict. Think about yourself first. Rootin for ya.
Is he "sorry" enough to get sober and stay sober? You know the answer.
Sorry he's bothering you.
Peace.
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Hi brightstar-
If you are confused as to what to do.
Just wait.
More will be revealed.
Do nothing for now - if you do have the impulse to respond, wait just five minutes... see if the impulse passes. Then go over in your mind every reason why you left.
No decision is still a decision.
Lyn
If you are confused as to what to do.
Just wait.
More will be revealed.
Do nothing for now - if you do have the impulse to respond, wait just five minutes... see if the impulse passes. Then go over in your mind every reason why you left.
No decision is still a decision.
Lyn
You have told him what you want from him. Time and again. You want a partner who is not drinking, who is actively addressing his addiction and all other problems, who is not constantly undermining your future together (and his very life) with his destructive habits. The only way to say it a new way is to stop saying it.
I understand your confusion and pain, brightstar. I have been at the point you are now several times over the last 3 years with my ABF, I am ashamed to admit. I am a mature, intelligent, sensitive, well-educated person - but you'd think I was a newborn babe when it comes to this.
Stay strong and visualize a future for yourself without this awful self-doubt, without the games, without the disappointments. That's what I am trying to do. Take care.
I understand your confusion and pain, brightstar. I have been at the point you are now several times over the last 3 years with my ABF, I am ashamed to admit. I am a mature, intelligent, sensitive, well-educated person - but you'd think I was a newborn babe when it comes to this.
Stay strong and visualize a future for yourself without this awful self-doubt, without the games, without the disappointments. That's what I am trying to do. Take care.
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