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If the angry texts persist more than a day or two, seriously, get a protective order. I only suggest waiting a day or two on the off chance she's drunk when she reads the email and it hasn't sunk in yet. If that happens, don't warn her, reason with her, etc. Just DO it.
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Yea I just like to experience the fallout from a behavioral perspective. If it becomes negative I have no problems blocking.
It has not reached protective order intensity yet. If it goes that way will do. I may not even get angry texts just saying.
It has not reached protective order intensity yet. If it goes that way will do. I may not even get angry texts just saying.
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Originally Posted by Hammer 
Good job on the duck and run.
And let me guess . . . she "accidentally" left her panties in the bathroom so she will have cause to call again.
THIS is why I require house guests to learn to pee in the yard.
Just saying.
But then again, you can do that in Texas.
And let me guess . . . she "accidentally" left her panties in the bathroom so she will have cause to call again.
THIS is why I require house guests to learn to pee in the yard.
Just saying.
But then again, you can do that in Texas.
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Well I got the proverbial farewell text. I will spare everyone the details because I am over it and it doesn't matter anyhow.
When I got that text all I had to was look back on all I have learned, the decisions I've made and looking at the future with wiser eyes. That gives me strength to follow through.
I really appreciate everyone who has shared in this thread and elsewhere on SR. Reading everyone's experiences , how they relate so shockingly to me, the pain that others have endured and more, have really helped me to make my own decisions that are backed by healthy thinking, research and out of the bubble observation.
For those who are new to the SR forums, I would encourage you to continue reading, if a post doesn't relate to your unique situation keep digging.
There's is so much valuable information here that it's worth it to spend the time. Not to mention the support has been amazing.
When I got that text all I had to was look back on all I have learned, the decisions I've made and looking at the future with wiser eyes. That gives me strength to follow through.
I really appreciate everyone who has shared in this thread and elsewhere on SR. Reading everyone's experiences , how they relate so shockingly to me, the pain that others have endured and more, have really helped me to make my own decisions that are backed by healthy thinking, research and out of the bubble observation.
For those who are new to the SR forums, I would encourage you to continue reading, if a post doesn't relate to your unique situation keep digging.
There's is so much valuable information here that it's worth it to spend the time. Not to mention the support has been amazing.
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Originally Posted by FireSprite
Peeing in the yard?!? LMAO!
Made me think back when I first met Mrs. Hammer. First time she stopped by my warehouse with me. In the woods at the side, I had a "pee rock" that she had heard me talk about. My joke was that my pee rock (a big limestone rock) would my mark on the Earth. If I peed on it everyday, I may wear it down and leave my mark.
She got out of my truck, asked where my pee rock was, went over, dropped her shorts and peed all over it. She came back over with a big smile.
Right then and there, I knew I wanted her to be my wife.
So that was how that went.
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Hammer: great story. =)
Well she just showed up at my door step and snuck in through the garage. I will be changing the code tonight.
She claims she's been sober for 8 days, has been in plenty of situations where alcohol has been readily available and is now taking the antabuse just when she thinks she needs it. She has her typical red face that is a tell tale of her drinking.
I didn't get argumentative or call her out on it. I just said look the priority is for you to get healthy and I can not and won't be a part of it. This ends here. Don't contact me until you have been sober for a year. I grabbed her keys and escorted her out of my house to her car.
Hopefully this really has ended today, if not I will do what's necessary. If she needed to see me one more time for some sense of closure or whatever, and it gets her off my back, great.
I'm sticking to my no contact. I believe I handled it in the best, least drama way.
Well she just showed up at my door step and snuck in through the garage. I will be changing the code tonight.
She claims she's been sober for 8 days, has been in plenty of situations where alcohol has been readily available and is now taking the antabuse just when she thinks she needs it. She has her typical red face that is a tell tale of her drinking.
I didn't get argumentative or call her out on it. I just said look the priority is for you to get healthy and I can not and won't be a part of it. This ends here. Don't contact me until you have been sober for a year. I grabbed her keys and escorted her out of my house to her car.
Hopefully this really has ended today, if not I will do what's necessary. If she needed to see me one more time for some sense of closure or whatever, and it gets her off my back, great.
I'm sticking to my no contact. I believe I handled it in the best, least drama way.
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