The guy I was dating relapsed
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I am so confused with you being a therapist and knowing how addicts are master manipulators and things of that nature does that mean you are as well a codependent ? Not judging I am just complezrly lost as to why you had gotten involved considering all you knw but we r human and make mistakes just glad u did make the decision t end it and mayb thats why you dated so you nw can see why you never dated one again since your divorce. either way glad ur here this really made me question this whole therapy counseling stuff...but wish u the best.
Re making you "question this whole therapy counseling stuff", therapists are human too. It is much easier to see other's dysfunction than our own. It is much easier to be a therapist than to be a person dealing with relationships at times.
Re making you "question this whole therapy counseling stuff", therapists are human too. It is much easier to see other's dysfunction than our own. It is much easier to be a therapist than to be a person dealing with relationships at times.
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Therapists are people. People make mistakes, rectify their mistakes, and sometimes have difficult or failed relationships. There's no way in hell I would ever want to see a therapist that had never experienced disappointing or dysfunctional relationships. My favorite therapist had experienced serious rejection from her family of origin as a young adult and figured out a way to make a life regardless of losing her family and dealing with depression. She changed my life.
but I also know, because of his honesty, that he has relapsed every year since he first entered into recovery. Same acknowledgement, same immediate report to sponsor, and same right back to meetings. Because of the pattern, and my fears, I ended it with him tonight. And it sucks because aside from the relapse, I really liked this guy and he liked me. He was the nicest guy I've ever dated.
I know people can get stronger recovery than they had thru a relapse, but I also know a person in good/active recovery doesn't usually relapse.
I know people can get stronger recovery than they had thru a relapse, but I also know a person in good/active recovery doesn't usually relapse.
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[QUOTE=CarrieTX;3786472]It's also crazy how quickly my life can get crazy when I'm close to someone who uses.
Wow! I thought I was the only one here...U don't know how much I can simpathise with u on this....After only one year with my ex addicted bf I was all messed up and honestly I cannot say who was being more disfunctional me or him....I thought it was me to be particularly weak to start the path of codependency and loose control so quickly...and maybe it can be...who knows, someone could respond much better than me...All i know is that suddendly anxiety started and fear and confusion...he dragged me there, with both hands.
Wow! I thought I was the only one here...U don't know how much I can simpathise with u on this....After only one year with my ex addicted bf I was all messed up and honestly I cannot say who was being more disfunctional me or him....I thought it was me to be particularly weak to start the path of codependency and loose control so quickly...and maybe it can be...who knows, someone could respond much better than me...All i know is that suddendly anxiety started and fear and confusion...he dragged me there, with both hands.
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