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Old 04-01-2011, 05:44 PM
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Your meetings, your recovery, and what you say in meetings is none of his God damned business and if he is really working AA he knows better, as does his sponsor. He is completely out of line. He's sabotaging your relationship for some other reason. Proabably isn't even aware he's doing it.

This is ********.

**** that guy.

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Old 04-01-2011, 08:38 PM
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Your meetings, your recovery, and what you say in meetings is none of his God damned business and if he is really working AA he knows better, as does his sponsor. He is completely out of line. He's sabotaging your relationship for some other reason. Proabably isn't even aware he's doing it.


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Yes, his sponsor set him straight on my meetings, my shares, my recovery.

Thanks for the advice cyranoak. (I had been reading your name cryanoak for the longest time...I need to read better. LOL
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Old 04-01-2011, 08:45 PM
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Originally Posted by Cyranoak View Post
Your meetings, your recovery, and what you say in meetings is none of his God damned business and if he is really working AA he knows better, as does his sponsor. He is completely out of line. He's sabotaging your relationship for some other reason. Proabably isn't even aware he's doing it.

This is ********.

**** that guy.

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OMG! I need another beer...no offense to A's intended.

PickMe, sorry if we come across as JADED, CYNICAL, "DUMP HIS BUTT" people on SR. None of us mean to, even Cyranoak above, but we've all been around, and around again, the block that alcoholism lives on.

We mean no harm in our advice, wisdom, and cynicism. I wish you the best, and know how you feel, having been in your shoes. Keep going to Al-Anon...it will give you the tools to live successfully with your RA as he goes through recovery. It can be very bumpy.
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Old 04-01-2011, 10:33 PM
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I hope that you, Pickme, have not given up on this group's support. I am new to blogs and this site, so I am not even sure if this will go to the group!

The feedback is right on. Abusers and addicts will shift the blame, externalize, to justify their behavior. It is a bit of a survival mechanism. I think it can be worse with men who externalize more than women who tend to blame ourselves. This said, it is hard to stand there and take it or leave the situation and know it is still there when you come back. Keep on taking good care of yourself.
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