Ugh, I just want to be normal.
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Ugh, I just want to be normal.
I'm always seeing so much on here about "working on ourselves", and after starting the twelve steps, I realize just how much work it really is. This might sound really selfish/lazy, but sometimes I just feel so angry that I need to do "work on myself". All of the other people in my life (excuse my alcoholic father and ex) are able to function normally. Why should I need to "work on myself" to be normal person? Then when I think this, it immediately causes me to have a flashback of my boyfriend saying the same thing, and I feel like I am being "sick" just for saying this. Not too long ago my ex told me I was "very badly sick with the disease" when I was crying one day and that he was sorry he had made me that way. Its pretty depressing to think that I am somehow defective and need fixing because I happened to enter a relationship with someone who ended up being an alcoholic. I wish I could just move on, and not have to in effect give myself "treatment" because I feel like I cant have normal relationships now, or that I could just get some fast cure, not go through weeks/months/years of this stuff. Its so frustrating, especially when there are one million other things I need to do. If anyones ever seen the movie "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind", I often wish that I could have that done to me, ha. It ends in disaster in the movie anyways though. Just a frustrated rant.
Recovery is being asked to give up all we've ever known to get something better that we can't yet understand………
Don't give up on yourself, you are worth learning a new way to approach life and get the happiness you deserve.
Don't give up on yourself, you are worth learning a new way to approach life and get the happiness you deserve.
I no longer want to be normal. I just want to be happy. The way I was living my life was not making me happy, and that had more to do with me than my AH. I don't look at working on myself as something I had to do because of him. It was, and is, something I WANT to do for me.
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