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Old 06-20-2009, 02:12 PM   #1 (permalink)

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With nowhere else to take this..but here.

Hi All,

I have been having a bad day, crying and crying and crying. My ex left me quite some time ago now and I found out he was with a so called friend of mine for close to two years behind my back. More lately there was an incident where he wrote my sister an email saying how GREAT his new woman is, and she wrote about how awful a person I am. I am assuming she got this information from him about how awful I treated him. I know its insane, but today I read those mails again and really allowed it to get to me. How lucky for him that he went from a b*tch like me to a Great Woman. Ouch that hurts!

I just had to get that out and since my friends believe I should be over it by now, I thought I would post here.

Thanks for listening.
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Old 06-20-2009, 02:33 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Delete them, they're only pixel scabs that you cannot resist picking.

What good thing are you doing for yourself today (other than posting here)?

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Old 06-20-2009, 02:39 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I agree. Delete them.
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Old 06-20-2009, 03:35 PM   #4 (permalink)

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Its hard to be rejected by the reject. Wasn't there a thread with that name not too long ago?

I feel the same way alot. My exah seems to have many, many women lined up at his door. Heck he had them lined up before he left. Me? I have nobody lined up. Not one. But I do have my sanity (most of the time), and my precious baby.

Those emails are painful triggers. Delete them if you can.
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Old 06-20-2009, 06:38 PM   #5 (permalink)

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:ghug3 I am so sorry for your anguish. I am going through something similar and it hurts. I am reading a good book called "The Journey from Abandonment to Healing" and it helps me to recognize the grieving cycles I go through. My counselor told me something that helped too. She said my journey to emotional health can be related to walking up a spiral staircase. My core issues are in the center of the staircase. The core issues don't go away because they happened, but my perspective of them and my reactions/emotions to them change as I travel up the spiral staircase and view them from a different angle.
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