16 year old nephew on a downhill slide
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Thanks Copperpenny - short and to the point. I am beginning to feel more confident in making the decision to not take him in. I will always love him and try my hardest to let him know that my love is genuine.
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First off, no your aren't being selfish in the least. You do what you need to for your family!
Second I highly recommend those boot camp schools. I put my son in one when he was 14 and it changed his life. He is now 19 and in college and a fine young man.
Most of the boys at the school my son went to were placed there by the juvie system. They paid all the very considerable costs. See if you can get the court to place him there. If not, well, that $50K was the best I have ever spent.
Second I highly recommend those boot camp schools. I put my son in one when he was 14 and it changed his life. He is now 19 and in college and a fine young man.
Most of the boys at the school my son went to were placed there by the juvie system. They paid all the very considerable costs. See if you can get the court to place him there. If not, well, that $50K was the best I have ever spent.
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Originally Posted by Toomutch 
Thank you for your post Freedom. I admire you for getting through those times. How are you and your daughter doing now?
She does hold a steady job, makes her own car payments/insurance payments, and has trained her own horse that she's had a little over a year now. He is her pride and joy, and I truly believe her passion for horses, and now having her own have kept her from going down the path of addiction that my 30 year old still is on.
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Helping to find a proper placement may be the best you can do.
Your home is not an option until he proves that he has changed over a long
period of time. Your family does not need the chaos that an addict brings.
You can be an influence without him in your house. Although if he goes right back to
using upon release, it will be hard to positively influence him. Knowing that you care and are there when he is ready to quit drugs is okay
Your home is not an option until he proves that he has changed over a long
period of time. Your family does not need the chaos that an addict brings.
You can be an influence without him in your house. Although if he goes right back to
using upon release, it will be hard to positively influence him. Knowing that you care and are there when he is ready to quit drugs is okay
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