looking for a sponsor
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Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: TX
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Do you attend Alanon meetings? If so, at the end of the meeting potential sponsors volunteer themselves. I would recommend a f2f real life sponsor vs. an online sponsor if at all possible.
Good luck!
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Good luck!
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Join Date: Nov 2008
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maybe you could help my partner is a binge drinker, and at the moment we have seperated happens every eight weeks when my partner causes so much of an argument and is so cynical and cruel to me I have no choice to ask him to leave, since he left two weeks ago he has had his week binge must have been a bad one as now he is attending meetings, I have asked him to come home, he says its finished, I asked him to talk he has agreed to that, so at least there is hope, I just need the right words to say, as I dont want to offend him or make him feel this is all his fault, I do blame alcohol for this mess, but he blames me, or I am his excuse, what do you think he wants to hear at this moment. I am lost as to understand his point of view as we are looking through different angles, as you are recovering can you relate to where I,m coming from. any words or suggestions welcome, he is 41.
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Join Date: May 2007
Location: It's a Dry Heat, AZ.
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Hmmm...he's the same age as I am.
Finger pointing doesn't solve anything. Is he trying to get sober? It's difficult to reason with alcohol. Remember the three C's: You didn't cause it. You can't control it. You can't cure it.
Alcohol is cunning, baffling, & powerful. Without help, it is too much for us. Are there any Al-anon meetings in your area?
Since I can't get into your husband's mind, I can't tell you exactly what he wants to hear. If he's trying to get sober, then there might be hope. Reason things out rationally, without trying to over analyze things, or rationalize them.
I know you must want desperately to say all the right things to fix it. You could end up saying all the right things and still have it fail miserably. Pray. Give it over to God.
Finger pointing doesn't solve anything. Is he trying to get sober? It's difficult to reason with alcohol. Remember the three C's: You didn't cause it. You can't control it. You can't cure it.
Alcohol is cunning, baffling, & powerful. Without help, it is too much for us. Are there any Al-anon meetings in your area?
Since I can't get into your husband's mind, I can't tell you exactly what he wants to hear. If he's trying to get sober, then there might be hope. Reason things out rationally, without trying to over analyze things, or rationalize them.
I know you must want desperately to say all the right things to fix it. You could end up saying all the right things and still have it fail miserably. Pray. Give it over to God.
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