maybe you could help my partner is a binge drinker, and at the moment we have seperated happens every eight weeks when my partner causes so much of an argument and is so cynical and cruel to me I have no choice to ask him to leave, since he left two weeks ago he has had his week binge must have been a bad one as now he is attending meetings, I have asked him to come home, he says its finished, I asked him to talk he has agreed to that, so at least there is hope, I just need the right words to say, as I dont want to offend him or make him feel this is all his fault, I do blame alcohol for this mess, but he blames me, or I am his excuse, what do you think he wants to hear at this moment. I am lost as to understand his point of view as we are looking through different angles, as you are recovering can you relate to where I,m coming from. any words or suggestions welcome, he is 41.