blizzard77

I wish I had something useful to say to you but I don't. I can tell that you are hurting and I just wanted you to know you are in my thoughts and send you a big cyber hug.
(((((((kermit))))))))

Minx1969

Kermit -

Let him be an adult..If he doesn't want to call you, talk to you - then accept that is where he is today.

Do you want to make yourself feel worse? Then go ahead and do the drive by. You control the amount of pain you are in.

You need to ACCEPT reality as it is today and stop trying to control the situation by checking up on him.

Focus on you - get busy..Go scrub your bathroom with a toothbrush. (Trust me ..this has been given by many Alanon Sponsors to their sponsees to keep them busy)

This may seen kind of hard core (or hard a$$) but if he wants to do whatever he is going to do it.

My brother committed suicide 7 years ago..I dont' agree with it.but it was HIS Life and HIS choice to do as he pleases.

FormerDoormat

I agree with Denny:

Here's a hug for you ((((Kermit)))) since I know how hard it is to do nothing when you're worried about someone you love. As much as you'd like to, you can't save him from himself.

kermit

Well I didn't deive by haven't even tried to call.The worse thing that could happen is a officer at my door, but untill then I will live my life the best I can. I will worrie and I WILL love him. I'm scared but I will live my life. I went to back to school night for my son. I have soooooo much support there too. Even the princiable said that "I'm here for you as a friend" how awsome is that? I'm so overwhellmed happy, sad, GREATFUL yet scared for my AH. The love I have for this man is so strong that letting go is the hardest thing I have ever done. Thanks for checking up one me

So Confused

We are all here for support. In my prayers
SC

mazey

Kermit, you are doing just fine. Try to stay strong and focused on you and your kids.

kermit

Just a quick check in......I haven't called gone bye NOTHING,,,,,,yea for me.

Now I hope I can make it thru the weekend

blizzard77

Still thinking of you. Hang in there

Pick-a-name

Hi, Kermit...hope you are doing well.

FormerDoormat

See, you're stronger than you thought!

kermit

Thankyou, I'm trying.... This is tough, still no word.Oh, I got Roofie's ashes today, we are going to give her a specail memorial this weekend. I hope this will help put closure on it for us. Man I miss her..........

Live

hugs!

JessicaNAJ

Hang in the Kermit....you are doing great and showing a lot of strength. I really truly hope you have a wonderful weekend!! Any plans?

kermit

Okay he called, same old ****.. man I hate it when you all are right....Oh but this time I waited. We are getting the area ready to give Riifie her memorial service. He said he would be here.. We will see. Thanks all. I'm also going to get to my meeting tomorrow I haven't been I a month or more.

Cynay

Glad to hear that he is not hurt and you worst thoughts were not true.

Also glad to hear you stuck to it and did not call him.

You know Im not sure that I would invite him into the normal life (the pups funeral) cuz you said you will see if he shows. I dont know to me it seems that in inviting him you are rewarding bad behavior. He does not call, does not have contact with the kids even knowing that something happened that hurt them... yet at the last minute he comes in to "rescue" the day where the kids are concerned......

*shrugs* Im in a mood, not to worry Im going to a meeting tonight.

kermit

Thats okay Cynay, I really only did it for the kids. No other reason. Hope your meeting goes well