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Originally Posted by Aellyce 
My own habitual, default reaction in such a situation (also in much less severe and definitive stressful situations) would most likely to be one of isolation -- something I've been working on for a good while but the old pattern is still with me and surfaces often.
But -- it's funny how sometimes it's hard to tell the difference.
Originally Posted by Aellyce
.... in the end I thought I would be a fool to discard all this simply driven by some frustrations about my obsessiveness. Maybe it's the obsessiveness that brought me back also, but I see this here as a good one
All I think about it is, am I better off now than I was in October, 2012? Hell yes. Enough said.
Originally Posted by silentrun
I think if she allows you to help her through losing you that would be great. Maybe it will make her think that dad actually might know his stuff. I have had people tell me things and it didn't click until years later.
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Good morning everyone. Thank you all so much for your wonderful sharing, it really touches me.
I,at the moment, am caught up in some horrible situation with my nearest and dearest being in the middle of an alcoholic binge. I am tired from work and have a permanent headache from crying. This is so hard. I have sort of run out of words. But I am here, and following along.
Happy anniversary guys ❤️
I,at the moment, am caught up in some horrible situation with my nearest and dearest being in the middle of an alcoholic binge. I am tired from work and have a permanent headache from crying. This is so hard. I have sort of run out of words. But I am here, and following along.
Happy anniversary guys ❤️
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Sorry about the grim news, I was shocked and no one to suddenly tell. Just booked a flight to Europe, not for tomorrow but in 4 days, as he is dead and we arranged everything beforehand. Sorry guys, I did not mean my new account to start like this. I did call 911 though, because I think I need...something. I won't be able to displace this one.
Ok they just arrived. Sorry about the drama, friends.
Ok they just arrived. Sorry about the drama, friends.
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So very sorry for your loss Aellyce! Take care of yourself. And I am sorry for your loss too Gilmer. So many losses! And Jeni26, I hope you can find a way with your SO. I am sorry that you are going thru this. Big hugs to all
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(((Aellyce))) So very sorry about this news, my friend. Good on you for calling 911 if you felt that much in shock. No apologies needed here for whatever drama, you're amongst friends. 
How important it is to have things arranged is shown so well and I'm sure this is helpful for you today and so on. I'm concerned about you (((Aellyce))) and hope you are managing as well as can be. Please keep us in the know of how you're doing? All my best hopes and strengths to you, my friend
How important it is to have things arranged is shown so well and I'm sure this is helpful for you today and so on. I'm concerned about you (((Aellyce))) and hope you are managing as well as can be. Please keep us in the know of how you're doing? All my best hopes and strengths to you, my friend
Originally Posted by Aellyce
Sorry about the grim news, I was shocked and no one to suddenly tell. Just booked a flight to Europe, not for tomorrow but in 4 days, as he is dead and we arranged everything beforehand. Sorry guys, I did not mean my new account to start like this. I did call 911 though, because I think I need...something. I won't be able to displace this one.
Ok they just arrived. Sorry about the drama, friends.
Ok they just arrived. Sorry about the drama, friends.
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(((Jeni))) I'm sadden to hear your husband is drinking so hard. I wish I had words of wisdom. I can't imagine the day to day emotional strains and hurts you must be dealing with ongoing. I'm so sorry. Please feel free to share with us as much or as little as you may need for us to be helpful.
(((Della))) I didn't know your dad recently this week passed. So sorry. I hope your doing well. You're such a quite and calm person. My thoughts are with you.
(((Della))) I didn't know your dad recently this week passed. So sorry. I hope your doing well. You're such a quite and calm person. My thoughts are with you.
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Aellyce, my deepest condolences to you. Please take good care and stay close. Know that you were a good daughter and you father loved you deeply.
Gillmer, my continued sympathies to you, too. Your note emphasized the peacefulness of his passing. That means a lot, doesn't it?
Della, did I miss something, friend? My sympathies to you, too.
Fathers are so special. It's been a little more than 13 months for me.
The SR family helped greatly then, as it does now. When my father died, Dee sent this quote to me:
"Death is not extinguishing the light; it is only putting out the lamp because the dawn has come." - Rabindranath Tagore
Gillmer, my continued sympathies to you, too. Your note emphasized the peacefulness of his passing. That means a lot, doesn't it?
Della, did I miss something, friend? My sympathies to you, too.
Fathers are so special. It's been a little more than 13 months for me.
The SR family helped greatly then, as it does now. When my father died, Dee sent this quote to me:
"Death is not extinguishing the light; it is only putting out the lamp because the dawn has come." - Rabindranath Tagore
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