Major Crisis
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If you are just starting to withdraw try to recognize that you're brain is not working properly right now. The bad anxiety/AV thoughts are your brain trying to reset itself after the damage. Just recognizing that my brain wasn't working properly and not to listen to it until the withdrawals were better help me quite a bit.
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You can and will rise up out of this, Shift. The last time it happened to me led to sobriety & a return to sanity. I was more determined than ever after my last relapse. I was disgusted with myself & exhausted from pretending I could ever be a social drinker.
Keep talking to us - we're with you.
Keep talking to us - we're with you.
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Join Date: Jun 2017
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Yesterday I basically told everyone who's been irritating me to F off...I'm so tired and just want some peace.
It may have provided short term breathing room, as people definitely left me alone; but it was a solution aimed at outlying areas of my life, and I needed to get closer to home if I wanted a long term solution. I was at war with myself and irritated at myself. I needed to make peace with myself, instead of shooting the various messengers.
I did a lot of intense, at times painful and unpleasant, self reflection and inventorying of my past and present. I studied my behaviors and actions which revealed cause and effect. The time I spent doing this was well worth it though because I came to understand myself better and so was finally able to make peace with myself. This has dramtically cut down on the number of people I tell to F off when they irritate me. Now it is maybe 1 out 10.
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,241
There is a lot of information online with a little bit of
time, footwork, it is all at our fingertips, finding answers
to many of the questions we look for answers to.
There will always be some person, place or thing that
I will not agree with. Not meet my expectations. That
will absolutely aggrivate me to no end.
Many of those people, places and things that i drank
over, to numb my feeling over and kept me in my insane
addiction.
Once i got into recovery and was taught many valuable
lessons that I continue to incorporate in all my affairs, then
if a situation happens, like the person who didnt even slow
down or stop at the neighborhood stop sign this morning,
flying right in front of us, we could have had an accident,
or we could have cussed her up one side down the other.....
resulting in ....not one Earthly thing except, pizzing us off....
raising our blood pressures, maybe a heart attack.....
Anyway.....this fruitloop probably went on about her business
this morning, not giving a single thought that she ran a stop
sign and pizzed off a few old folks.
Yep, we were startled at her actions and we talked about
it, then, just accepted the situation as was because....well,
what could we really do at that moment?
Anyway....in recovery, we learn how to conduct ourselves
in a better manner that we would have done if we were
in our addiction.
There are lots of tools we can learn to help us in
life instead of reaching for alcohol to solve our situations.
Those tools can also help us from flying off the handle
and using fowl language, but to rather calm our hearts,
minds and souls towards those people, places and things
that are trying so hard to ruffle our feather and peace
of mind.
What the Phrase “People, Places, and Things” Means | Serenity Denver (stoutstreet.org)
time, footwork, it is all at our fingertips, finding answers
to many of the questions we look for answers to.
There will always be some person, place or thing that
I will not agree with. Not meet my expectations. That
will absolutely aggrivate me to no end.
Many of those people, places and things that i drank
over, to numb my feeling over and kept me in my insane
addiction.
Once i got into recovery and was taught many valuable
lessons that I continue to incorporate in all my affairs, then
if a situation happens, like the person who didnt even slow
down or stop at the neighborhood stop sign this morning,
flying right in front of us, we could have had an accident,
or we could have cussed her up one side down the other.....
resulting in ....not one Earthly thing except, pizzing us off....
raising our blood pressures, maybe a heart attack.....
Anyway.....this fruitloop probably went on about her business
this morning, not giving a single thought that she ran a stop
sign and pizzed off a few old folks.
Yep, we were startled at her actions and we talked about
it, then, just accepted the situation as was because....well,
what could we really do at that moment?
Anyway....in recovery, we learn how to conduct ourselves
in a better manner that we would have done if we were
in our addiction.
There are lots of tools we can learn to help us in
life instead of reaching for alcohol to solve our situations.
Those tools can also help us from flying off the handle
and using fowl language, but to rather calm our hearts,
minds and souls towards those people, places and things
that are trying so hard to ruffle our feather and peace
of mind.
What the Phrase “People, Places, and Things” Means | Serenity Denver (stoutstreet.org)
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Join Date: Jul 2019
Posts: 533
Thank you Dee. I feel a scared child. I'm so sorry .
You know I never came back and did any "victory " posts when I hit milestones, like six months or a year, because I know how easy it is to screw up.
I've just had too much trauma.
You know I never came back and did any "victory " posts when I hit milestones, like six months or a year, because I know how easy it is to screw up.
I've just had too much trauma.
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Join Date: Jan 2020
Location: Canada
Posts: 1,100
You had One year and five months. Then you had one shot that felt like the wonder drug. And now you’re in an emotional crises. It looks to me like your addictive voice could be at play now. Remember that the AV twists our thinking. Go back and read your original posts and try reconnect with you’re reasons. Play the tape forward long-term.
Recovery is a process. Whatever the situation, it will pass, as long as we stay sober!!
Sending positive soothing vibes your way
Recovery is a process. Whatever the situation, it will pass, as long as we stay sober!!
Sending positive soothing vibes your way
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If you want to see something amusing, look up Dutch cycling culture on YouTube. That will entertain you for a little while.
I don't know how to say this in a polite way and I was by no means offended but Denmark / the Danes are something different than The Netherlands. We're close, but not neighbors. Ambassador to the Virgin Islands sounds like a pretty cool job btw.
I don't know how to say this in a polite way and I was by no means offended but Denmark / the Danes are something different than The Netherlands. We're close, but not neighbors. Ambassador to the Virgin Islands sounds like a pretty cool job btw.
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Originally Posted by FlyingDutchMan 
If you want to see something amusing, look up Dutch cycling culture on YouTube. That will entertain you for a little while.
I don't know how to say this in a polite way and I was by no means offended but Denmark / the Danes are something different than The Netherlands. We're close, but not neighbors. Ambassador to the Virgin Islands sounds like a pretty cool job btw.
I don't know how to say this in a polite way and I was by no means offended but Denmark / the Danes are something different than The Netherlands. We're close, but not neighbors. Ambassador to the Virgin Islands sounds like a pretty cool job btw.
Oops, sorry. Lol. Personally, I've never been out of the US.
I'll look that up as soon as I can breathe again.
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