Joene23

Today has just been awful. Still dry after 23 days but I get to work and people are written up 60 percent of the staff wont receive their meager 40 cent yearly raise and someone from another department didn't like the fact that I could not give him an answer (because I was told not to by my superiors after I was completely cooperative with them at an earlier time) This person then complains to the joint management saying I was rude to them and told them to &*%# themselves. I can't change management I cant change my situation aside from continue to look for a new job I assume this is one of the things they talk about in meetings that I just need to accept at the moment. I don't feel the desire to run to a bottle and get drunk but I so desperately wish I had what ever magical trait or idk whatever to just accept this situation and get this knot of stress and hurt out of my chest. I am so tired of being angry or hurt when will life be something that I can relax and enjoy instead of carrying around every stressful thing 24 hours a day how do I do it how do you guys do it?

shockozulu

Practice, a lot of practice. Even then I don't do it 24/7. There will always be upsetting things in my life. I can try my best to recognize my stressors, that I can't do anything about this and keep chugging along. Today I had a lot of little stressors. They build up. So I see what's going on around me, I take my dog for a jog to release that tension, come home and read SR, listen to my Dodgers game and pull out my coloring book and colored pencils.

Lightning Bug

Are you usually rude to people and tell them to $@#!^/ themselves? If not, management already knows this. If yes, then you wouldn't be so upset. Either way it is best to leave work at the office. Especially stressful work.

Good job not drinking. Keep it up!

Joene23

At the place I work it doesn't really matter what your record is. If an engineer told you to do something incorrectly you are gonzo in a heartbeat. Usually this results in everything being done by email because everyone fears anything that goes wrong being pinned on the lowest person on the totem pole however if an engineer tells you do do something says yea ill send you the email and you then wait for the email that doesn't come and never complete the task your still fired no matter how many emails you send asking for response or permission. Its a constant soap opera of screaming and people being fired and quitting and write ups.

MissPerfumado

I'm sorry you're having such a rough time, Joene.

I think many of us can relate to that desire for a magic bullet to relieve stress. I thought alcohol was the answer but it sure wasn't.

What works for me is to breathe deep, be still for a moment and to put things in perspective. You are doing what you can right now to change things for the better - so you are taking action - but that will take time. Right now, recognise that this too shall pass.

I don't think anyone is totally with it, 24/7. We all can use a bit of help getting through the things that previously drove us to the bottle, and that is one of the things this God-send of a site is here for.

january161992

classic aa says to look at my part in it

even when the other person is 99% wrong

not easy but it always works out better in the end

God bless

Dee74

Here are quite a few ideas on ways to combat stress...
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...44-stress.html
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...f-respite.html

Honestly, tho, sometimes life is stressful - especially if it's someone else lying or whatever....but recovery has taught me that I'll get through it - without drinking - and things will be ok

Doesn't sound like a good work ebnvironment at all tho - I'd be looking in the want ads.

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blueberry2015

There are some fantastic guided meditations on you tube to help ease stress, I meditate A LOT, keeps me sober

Delilah1

I have been doing yoga and going for walks as stress relief. I also have really tried mindfulness this year, and some meditation. I have always dealt with anxiety, and that has lessened since being sober as well.

Stress doesn't go away, and some days are absolutely miserable, so finding another outlet is important. Have you tried any meditations?

Joene23

January161992, Your def right. I know I need to look at my part in it and try to focus on that. I would argue doing that is going to be much harder than quitting drinking was in the first place.

Darwinia

On the very positive side this altercation did not drive you to drink. It sounds as if you are doing very well in recovery.