Slightly weird one - ENFP looking for a sober buddy or general advice
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Slightly weird one - ENFP looking for a sober buddy or general advice
Dunno if this is the right place to start looking for this, or even if it's the right forum, but I'll give it a whirl.
I'm a writer, have a husband who has been away nine out of the last twelve months and am therefore mostly on my own, stuck in the house with a dog who has severe separation anxiety and can't be left alone. Traditional methods of quitting alcohol, like AA, don't work for me. I'm desperate to stop drinking and am completely committed to the idea, but I need to somehow not lose touch with myself in the process.
My personality type is ENFP. That basically means that I have a strong sense of what is right and wrong according to me personally rather than what the world thinks, and I think that this is at the route of my drinking problem (a steady two bottles of wine a day for around ten years). I've unwittingly convinced myself that drinking is an essential part of my personality, and I just can't figure out how to change that.
I can't be the only one for whom the usual methods completely fail, and it's very common for ENFPs to over indulge so there must be more of you out there ;-) so if anyone's got any ideas or insight I'd love to hear them. For me it often takes something to just click a switch in my head and I can make huge changes.
I'm a writer, have a husband who has been away nine out of the last twelve months and am therefore mostly on my own, stuck in the house with a dog who has severe separation anxiety and can't be left alone. Traditional methods of quitting alcohol, like AA, don't work for me. I'm desperate to stop drinking and am completely committed to the idea, but I need to somehow not lose touch with myself in the process.
My personality type is ENFP. That basically means that I have a strong sense of what is right and wrong according to me personally rather than what the world thinks, and I think that this is at the route of my drinking problem (a steady two bottles of wine a day for around ten years). I've unwittingly convinced myself that drinking is an essential part of my personality, and I just can't figure out how to change that.
I can't be the only one for whom the usual methods completely fail, and it's very common for ENFPs to over indulge so there must be more of you out there ;-) so if anyone's got any ideas or insight I'd love to hear them. For me it often takes something to just click a switch in my head and I can make huge changes.
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Originally Posted by Cantos 
Dunno if this is the right place to start looking for this, or even if it's the right forum, but I'll give it a whirl.
I'm a writer, have a husband who has been away nine out of the last twelve months and am therefore mostly on my own, stuck in the house with a dog who has severe separation anxiety and can't be left alone. Traditional methods of quitting alcohol, like AA, don't work for me. I'm desperate to stop drinking and am completely committed to the idea, but I need to somehow not lose touch with myself in the process.
My personality type is ENFP. That basically means that I have a strong sense of what is right and wrong according to me personally rather than what the world thinks, and I think that this is at the route of my drinking problem (a steady two bottles of wine a day for around ten years). I've unwittingly convinced myself that drinking is an essential part of my personality, and I just can't figure out how to change that.
I can't be the only one for whom the usual methods completely fail, and it's very common for ENFPs to over indulge so there must be more of you out there ;-) so if anyone's got any ideas or insight I'd love to hear them. For me it often takes something to just click a switch in my head and I can make huge changes.
I'm a writer, have a husband who has been away nine out of the last twelve months and am therefore mostly on my own, stuck in the house with a dog who has severe separation anxiety and can't be left alone. Traditional methods of quitting alcohol, like AA, don't work for me. I'm desperate to stop drinking and am completely committed to the idea, but I need to somehow not lose touch with myself in the process.
My personality type is ENFP. That basically means that I have a strong sense of what is right and wrong according to me personally rather than what the world thinks, and I think that this is at the route of my drinking problem (a steady two bottles of wine a day for around ten years). I've unwittingly convinced myself that drinking is an essential part of my personality, and I just can't figure out how to change that.
I can't be the only one for whom the usual methods completely fail, and it's very common for ENFPs to over indulge so there must be more of you out there ;-) so if anyone's got any ideas or insight I'd love to hear them. For me it often takes something to just click a switch in my head and I can make huge changes.
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Yeah! Alcohol is a crucial element of my personal value system, and no amount of rational information can override that. I tried quitting (managed three months) and was deeply unhappy and felt like a stranger in my own body, even though my body was a much more comfortable place to be when I wasn't drinking.
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Originally Posted by Cantos
Yeah! Alcohol is a crucial element of my personal value system, and no amount of rational information can override that.
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Yeap http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp
I guess you raise a good point, different personality types may have more difficulty than others!! . . . but the common denominator is having an addiction that is never an easy thing for anyone to deal with!
I guess you raise a good point, different personality types may have more difficulty than others!! . . . but the common denominator is having an addiction that is never an easy thing for anyone to deal with!
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Welcome to SR! I don't know anything about personality types or all of those letters! LOL
I do know that I needed to stop drinking because it was hurting my health and my life. I tried a lot of different things. Finally, I entered medical detox followed by rehab. Now, I'm doing intensive outpatient therapy and taking all of my prescribed medications (including naltrexone, which has REALLY helped with the cravings).
So far, that's what is working for me.
Also, if you're interested in some pointers that would potentially help your dog with separation anxiety- I know about that too. :-) Feel free to PM me.
All my best!
I do know that I needed to stop drinking because it was hurting my health and my life. I tried a lot of different things. Finally, I entered medical detox followed by rehab. Now, I'm doing intensive outpatient therapy and taking all of my prescribed medications (including naltrexone, which has REALLY helped with the cravings).
So far, that's what is working for me.
Also, if you're interested in some pointers that would potentially help your dog with separation anxiety- I know about that too. :-) Feel free to PM me.
All my best!
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Originally Posted by doggonecarl
It's a crucial element to most alcoholics...regardless of personality types. So look at the tried and true methods of recovery for ALL alcoholics.
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It's a good job to quit before anything serious happens. I wish I had tried this a year ago. I felt fine and everything was great until I collapsed suddenly from multiple bleeding ulcers, severely swollen pancreas and liver trouble. Was really close to dying and I am only 24 :/
I thought it would never happen to me,that I wasn't that bad. Sucks when all that crap happens out of the blue.
I don't follow a strict traditional method either. I've got my own methods that so far have given me my longest sobriety time ever (I'll message you the details if you want, it isn't AA so it might clash with some people's view here and I dont want to make people upset )
I thought it would never happen to me,that I wasn't that bad. Sucks when all that crap happens out of the blue.
I don't follow a strict traditional method either. I've got my own methods that so far have given me my longest sobriety time ever (I'll message you the details if you want, it isn't AA so it might clash with some people's view here and I dont want to make people upset
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Originally Posted by EverySngleNight
Also, if you're interested in some pointers that would potentially help your dog with separation anxiety- I know about that too. :-) Feel free to PM me.
All my best!
All my best!
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Originally Posted by Hollyanne
Google, "Terminal Uniqueness".
Welcome to Sober Recovery, Cantos.
Welcome to Sober Recovery, Cantos.
Apply your traits to getting sober with the same level of effort as you put into your drinking, and you will succeed.
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Originally Posted by Zeepa
I don't follow a strict traditional method either. I've got my own methods that so far have given me my longest sobriety time ever (I'll message you the details if you want, it isn't AA so it might clash with some people's view here and I dont want to make people upset )
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Originally Posted by Zeepa
It's a good job to quit before anything serious happens. I wish I had tried this a year ago. I felt fine and everything was great until I collapsed suddenly from multiple bleeding ulcers, severely swollen pancreas and liver trouble. Was really close to dying and I am only 24 :/
I thought it would never happen to me,that I wasn't that bad. Sucks when all that crap happens out of the blue.
I don't follow a strict traditional method either. I've got my own methods that so far have given me my longest sobriety time ever (I'll message you the details if you want, it isn't AA so it might clash with some people's view here and I dont want to make people upset )
I thought it would never happen to me,that I wasn't that bad. Sucks when all that crap happens out of the blue.
I don't follow a strict traditional method either. I've got my own methods that so far have given me my longest sobriety time ever (I'll message you the details if you want, it isn't AA so it might clash with some people's view here and I dont want to make people upset
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Originally Posted by Cantos
Agreed. Definitely. And I've tried all of the usual methods, such as AA and CBT. I'm just wondering if anyone has any particular advice for ENFPs. Might be clutching at straws, but it's worth a shot.
So by coming here, perhaps you've added a tool that might make a difference. I know it has for me.
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Wait- "terminal" as in fatal? "uniqueness"- as in being one of a kind, independent of a category or group? Can someone please explain this so I don't have to stinkin' google it? LOL I don't get it.
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Originally Posted by EverySngleNight
Wait- "terminal" as in fatal? "uniqueness"- as in being one of a kind, independent of a category or group? Can someone please explain this so I don't have to stinkin' google it? LOL I don't get it.
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