My father died today
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So sorry to hear this. I'm hugely impressed by the calm tone of your post. In such a difficult time to have the clarity of thought you do, it is as good an endorsement of sobriety as you will find on this site. Best wishes for the days ahead
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Sassy - Very sorry for your loss but perhaps it is a better outcome than you think. After all everyone dies. You said he died quicker than expected. Maybe that's a good thing.
Death sucks but it's part of the life cycle. No way around it. We are supposed to bury our parents.
I lost my dad in 2006. Massive stroke. From walking around to dead in about 10 days. Then there is my mom. She's 91 and still alive. In a nursing home in bad health. Suffering. I visited her today. It's so awful. The only thing worse than a dead parent is a an old suffering parent who has no hope of ever recovering. But they have not yet passed so the suffering continues.
My grandfather told me something a long time ago but it took me years to understand it. He said he had lived long enough and that he hoped that one day soon he just dropped dead. Unfortunately, like my mother he was not so lucky and he rotted away in a nursing home. Suffering.... for years and years.
I love my mom. I wish she could live forever. But because of her poor physical health and constant suffering I pray that she passes soon.
Death sucks but it's part of the life cycle. No way around it. We are supposed to bury our parents.
I lost my dad in 2006. Massive stroke. From walking around to dead in about 10 days. Then there is my mom. She's 91 and still alive. In a nursing home in bad health. Suffering. I visited her today. It's so awful. The only thing worse than a dead parent is a an old suffering parent who has no hope of ever recovering. But they have not yet passed so the suffering continues.
My grandfather told me something a long time ago but it took me years to understand it. He said he had lived long enough and that he hoped that one day soon he just dropped dead. Unfortunately, like my mother he was not so lucky and he rotted away in a nursing home. Suffering.... for years and years.
I love my mom. I wish she could live forever. But because of her poor physical health and constant suffering I pray that she passes soon.
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I'm so sorry for the loss of your dad. I know how very difficult this is. I'm so glad you stayed sober, that is definitely what he would have wanted. Sending so many prayers, and so much love your way.
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