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Old 02-15-2018, 07:43 PM
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Whatís the Point?

Of 1, single beer?

Some coworkers and I went to lunch. About half had a beer. 1 beer! What is the point?? No buzz at all! (I thought to myself)

I guess thatís why we on here are different. In my mind itís a 6 pack minimum or why bother. And if I started at lunch, itís gonna be a looooonggg day of drinking.

My buddy did the same the last night I drank. He had 2. I had 3. We stopped on the way home for us each to get a 6 pack, but he didnít get one. I asked him why and he said ďIím good.Ē I was shocked. And shamefully purchased my 6íer. Thatís when I decided it was time to cut it out.
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Old 02-15-2018, 08:59 PM
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Of 1, single beer?

Some coworkers and I went to lunch. About half had a beer. 1 beer! What is the point?? No buzz at all! (I thought to myself)

I guess thatís why we on here are different. In my mind itís a 6 pack minimum or why bother. And if I started at lunch, itís gonna be a looooonggg day of drinking.

My buddy did the same the last night I drank. He had 2. I had 3. We stopped on the way home for us each to get a 6 pack, but he didnít get one. I asked him why and he said ďIím good.Ē I was shocked. And shamefully purchased my 6íer. Thatís when I decided it was time to cut it out.

There is no point if you're an alcoholic.

I drank to get that buzz if not outright blitzed.
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Old 02-15-2018, 09:23 PM
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Old 02-15-2018, 10:12 PM
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Originally Posted by iew101 View Post
Of 1, single beer?
I don't understand it either, not anymore. I mean there was a long period where I could and did stop at one, drinking only very occasionally, and I thought and would have said it was because I liked the taste, but I'm not sure that was really true. Beer is kind of an acquired taste, which means it tastes bad and you train yourself to tolerate it while claiming you think it tastes good. Perhaps I was keeping a low level desire going, or reliving a past night of drinking a lot more than just one, I really don't know. Certainly the last half dozen of my drinking years, it was never just one, and most of the time it was 12-15 plus.
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Old 02-15-2018, 11:57 PM
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I'm in the same boat, surprisingly its been pretty easy to abstain. Abstaining has never been an issue for me, the issue is when I had that first drink I didn't want to stop. Beer for me is when I ran out of vodka or whiskey and by that point it was never just one as I was trying to "keep the party going" for my "nightcap".
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Old 02-16-2018, 04:31 AM
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My wife will pour herself a glass of wine...drink a part of it...and then put it in the refrigerator with a baggie over it to have for another day. I kid you not. It makes me laugh EVERY single time.
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Old 02-16-2018, 04:37 AM
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There are plenty of people like this- as I noticed once I quit drinking!

But more importantly than comparing yourself/ourselves to those who can leave it alone at one (or just don't drink period) - what do we do about our problem?

For me, quitting and getting busy with a recovery program was the answer. (Or die)

I hope to see you here with us.
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Old 02-16-2018, 05:06 AM
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...That’s when I decided it was time to cut it out.
Well, it's great you've made that decision. It's always a relief when people come back, because sometimes when they go back out .. well, they don't manage to come back. I only went to a funeral of once such lady last Friday. A 'functioning' alcoholic, midwife, a respected member of her church, and an on-off member of AA who never quite got round to getting willing to work her program of recovery, but dipped back out whenever things got uncomfortable or painful, looking for instant relief and gratification rather than sticking with her recovery plan and trusting that it would get better if she worked on her recovery. Such a sad loss, and a waste of life.

Instead of worrying about how others do and dont drink, how's about making and committing to working a recovery plan so you can carry this through this time, and make your sobriety sustainable, comfortable, and one day preferable to drinking?

https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...y-plans-1.html (Psst...wanna know why I'm always recommending recovery plans?)

Wishing you all the best for your sobriety and the recovery that can make it LIVING sober rather than just being sober.

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Old 02-16-2018, 05:20 AM
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There are plenty of people like this- as I noticed once I quit drinking!

But more importantly than comparing yourself/ourselves to those who can leave it alone at one (or just don't drink period) - what do we do about our problem?

For me, quitting and getting busy with a recovery program was the answer. (Or die)

I hope to see you here with us.
One of the first things I noticed after getting sober was most people seem to drink responsibly.

I went to two work functions recently and while most everyone drank nobody went overboard. My co-workers had four or five beers and that was that.

Nobody got smashed, no drunk arguments and everyone left in a good mood.

I also realized early in sobriety nobody really gives a damn if I drink or not. These days I don't even bother with an excuse I just say, "Yeah, I used to drink but I stopped." End of discussion. Nobody cares.
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Thatís when I decided it was time to cut it out.
Hope you put something in place to support that decision.
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Old 02-16-2018, 10:01 AM
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My wife will pour herself a glass of wine...drink a part of it...and then put it in the refrigerator with a baggie over it to have for another day. I kid you not. It makes me laugh EVERY single time.
My wife will do that as well. I've never in my life not finished a beer. I've run out but never not finished one.
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Old 02-16-2018, 10:33 AM
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Never not finished a drink, only wished there were more.

I second everyone's thoughts here. The less I drink the more I see responsible regular drinkers out there. A whole table of half finished wine glasses??? Come on people!
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Old 02-16-2018, 11:46 AM
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Never not finished a drink, only wished there were more.

I second everyone's thoughts here. The less I drink the more I see responsible regular drinkers out there. A whole table of half finished wine glasses??? Come on people!
Ha! I think itís my personality too. 1 cookie? nope 7. Regular size candy bar? Nope king size. Run a 5k? Nope full marathon!
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We're alcoholics, their not. It's that simple.
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Old 02-16-2018, 10:17 PM
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Just one of the few things us alcoholics find baffling. On top of:
Liquor cabinets
A 12 pack that sits in the fridge for months
Getting drunk only happens maybe once a year (if that)
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Old 02-17-2018, 08:15 AM
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The liquor cabinet would be a total disaster. Even having 1 bottle of bourbon in my house created an issue.

Learning I have an all out personality was important for me. Iím trying to work on moderation in a lot of aspects in my life. Iíve realized that the reason moderation doesnít work, for me anyway, with booze is because each drink chips away at the part of my rational brain and before too long itís just booze brain full steam ahead.
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Old 02-17-2018, 08:23 AM
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The real eye opener for me has been seeing people who drink to get buzzed but can then reign it in and call it a night/fall asleep sober. My younger sister drinks frequently (and I sometimes worry about things progressing for her) but after watching her do this I thought ok there's miles of difference between us cause for me getting day drunk and then switching to water would literally not be an option.
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Old 02-17-2018, 08:29 AM
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I like to play Blackjack. Once a year, I go to the casino with a set amount of money and I never feel the need to spend more. In fact, if I am on a losing streak, I'll cut my losses before I even reach my set limit. It doesn't bother me at all to just walk away from the table. I can gamble socially and for entertainment.

I imagine that is similar to what social drinkers experience. They can cut their losses at any time without feeling the compulsion to keep going regardless of the consequences.
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