RecklessEric

I don't get the thread title.

BullDog777

i've always had zero issues there. Drive, performance, whatever. My body has been in a perpetual 17 year old mode since i was 17. lol. I'm almost 44 now.

The only time i ever had any issues is when i was put on anti-anxiety medication. Effexor. Everything worked, but no O. I told the dr. that s#it had to go because i was a lot more tense if the equipment was malfunctioning.
She got a good laugh out of it and took me off the medication.

Everything has been fine since. I don't think i was as active when i was drinking because it just didn't occur to me as much.

advbike

Well when I was drinking I would be interested in sex whether or not the chemistry and feelings were there or not. It was more about whether I needed sex or not. It was very selfish. Once I got sober, physical attraction and good communication became a lot more important to my level of interest, but if it was there it was wonderful.

The chemistry between me and my current partner is very strong, even after 3 years, and we have a very active and fulfilling sex life. So yes, the libido definitely returns, assuming the other factors are in place.

shortstop81

I pay more attention to my libido now in sobriety than before. If that makes any sense.

I'm much kinder and more respectful of my sexual self. That's the main thing.

Bunny211

I had no drive for the first year and a half. But part of that was depression/anxiety that I was not treating.

I think a change in drive is totally normal.