my story. I will try to keep it short, but ?
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jun 2014
Location: Florida
Posts: 554
I"M not sure. I'm not drinking. but. I"M really out there. MY son has chemo. I have chemo. EVERYONE I know is asking me to help them. I"M about to explode dee. I've never felt this way. IM lost. I want someone to tell me what to do. I want my mother.....NO, I need my mother.
Member
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: Los Angeles, California
Posts: 8,326
ES, is your Mom around? Is there anyone you can turn to? your Doctor, a support group? you sound overwhelmed.
You don't have to say "yes" to folks. no is good. Maybe you need some help prioritizing? See about getting some support f2f! And you can say No.
love from Lenina
You don't have to say "yes" to folks. no is good. Maybe you need some help prioritizing? See about getting some support f2f! And you can say No.
love from Lenina
Member
Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: East Coast USA
Posts: 120,935
You have more on your plate than any human being should have to endure. ((((ESD)))) from someone who is probably almost old enough to be your mother.
Try not to spread yourself too thin. (Others should be helping you.)
Try not to spread yourself too thin. (Others should be helping you.)
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jun 2014
Location: Florida
Posts: 554
my mom died 2 years ago. I miss her dearly. I wont do anything stupid...becuase I just wont...its not who I am, or who we are. we deliver. I deliver. I don't do support groups..because, well, I'm 'us'...we just survive. its who we are. I'll get on. But thank you guys for being here. its nice to cry to an actual person, not a wall. . I realy appreciate it. .
Member
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: Los Angeles, California
Posts: 8,326
What's wrong with support groups? You might have the chance to help someone else while they help you back!
I'm sorry about your mom. It's hurts a lot, I know. My grandma has been gone since 1999, her anniversary is coming up and I'm feeling those laps of grief and missing her.
Leigh is right, you have a very heavy load just now. sometimes the part of being brave is knowing when it's time to take someome's hand for a bit. Please don't feel like you have to walk this path alone. There's no shame.
Love from Lenina
I'm sorry about your mom. It's hurts a lot, I know. My grandma has been gone since 1999, her anniversary is coming up and I'm feeling those laps of grief and missing her.
Leigh is right, you have a very heavy load just now. sometimes the part of being brave is knowing when it's time to take someome's hand for a bit. Please don't feel like you have to walk this path alone. There's no shame.
Love from Lenina
Administrator
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,580
there's always support here. Maybe you can find some local support groups for yourself too?
I was bought up on 'never ask for help' too.
I think it's ridiculous to be honest. Asking fir help is not a sign of weakness
Noone is ever completely self sufficient.
D
I was bought up on 'never ask for help' too.
I think it's ridiculous to be honest. Asking fir help is not a sign of weakness
Noone is ever completely self sufficient.
D
Do your best
Join Date: Aug 2014
Posts: 67,046
i lost my mum coming up for 5 years ago some days hits me like a ton of bricks it was between aug to nov that she was diagnosed and died
loosing someone at the moment
if u want to talk pm ? i know your pain everybodys wants wants when u feel at breaking point
i need my mum too im 32 lost her at 27 to terminal cancer
if u wannna talk ?
loosing someone at the moment
if u want to talk pm ? i know your pain everybodys wants wants when u feel at breaking point
i need my mum too im 32 lost her at 27 to terminal cancer
if u wannna talk ?
Member
Join Date: Aug 2014
Posts: 20
Hi E glad you are posting and here. Some of us find it very hard to say no and to ask for help. I struggle with that too and some days things seem overwhelming. Sorry you are going through all of this - it must be very hard. Just keep taking one day at a time and hopefully you can see some light at the end of the tunnel soon. Do you have any friends or family or neighbours you could ask for some help??
Adventures In SpaceTime
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: Ottawa, Canada
Posts: 5,827
ESD, your story is a powerful resource and it would be a real loss for many of us, and yourself as well, if you try to keep it short in the telling. Give yourself a chance to share. I know for myself, there is much to appreciate in your experiences. It's not at all easy to share, to relate, to offer onto others our experiences, strengths, and hopes. And yet, in the sharing we also lighten our own sense of burden. Our despair is lessened as we trust in others understanding our challenges, our successes, and yes, even our failings.
I hope and trust you can bring yourself to share a bit of your story. Its unlikely to come out all organized and settled. More likely to be all over the map. No worries. Feel at ease among your SR friends.
I hope and trust you can bring yourself to share a bit of your story. Its unlikely to come out all organized and settled. More likely to be all over the map. No worries. Feel at ease among your SR friends.
Member
Join Date: Jul 2013
Posts: 3,359
ESD - there are natural ways to process emotions and stages. Acceptance is usually last. It really helps to have someone to talk to and I am not necessarily suggesting on an open Forum but that is there too. I hope you have someone in your camp you can share to work things through.
If you are grieving your mother, even two years later it might be helpful to go through these stages naturally in order to process. I see a therapist weekly and its refreshing to work things through.
Anyhow, thoughts and prayers, as always SR will have your back!
If you are grieving your mother, even two years later it might be helpful to go through these stages naturally in order to process. I see a therapist weekly and its refreshing to work things through.
Anyhow, thoughts and prayers, as always SR will have your back!
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
