aasharon90

When my 25 yrs marriage ended, I never
thought Id remarry again and yet here I
am with 24 yrs sobriety and married for
5 yrs now.

I continue to live and work my recovery
program taught to me yrs ago incoperating
steps and principles in all my affairs to the
best of my ability.

The spiritual part of my recovery and faith
has yet failed me. As long as I stay strong
in that area of my life then i'll be taken care
of.

I don't believe my HP wanted me to go
from one relationship to another and thus
was plucked from that situation quickly
and placed with one person in a healthy,
happy, honest marriage.

I had no idea that this man I married
would bring me so much fun and joy
in my life. Never did I think Id be one
to have many lovely tattoos and learn
to ride a motorcycle. Yep, at the age
of 50, I took a riding course and later
got my endorsement after hip replacement.

I ride passenger with my GIFT provided
to me in recovery taking trips to the Grand
Canyon, Sturgis, Daytona all the the states
inbetween.

It still amazes me that when living in
a program of recovery my life is in GOOD
HANDS, safe, secured, healthy, happy
and honest.

Id say it cant get any better than that,
but I believe it will.

Of course this is how IT WORKS for me.

Petewill

Sugarbear1.. I just read step 7, what does this have to do with my situation. humility?

trailrunrbyday

Petewill - if I could make a suggestion(if you aren't doing so already) - I would honestly try really hard to stop worrying about finding someone to fulfill an emptiness and look for some sort of interest-focused group(s) to get involved with socially. I am very physically active and where I live there are different groups that gather all the time bringing people together - stand up paddle boarding groups, running, mountain biking, road riding, tennis, hiking - you just show up! There are also groups like volunteer trail building groups that meet to do trail maintenance etc. Whenever I am involved with any of these groups there are invariably single people who are out there too. Many of them become friends and were I single - I would find it a great way to meet others.

My very beautiful/successful/driven sister was single for a few years - she was sure that "all the good ones were gone" and she would get really down about it. I gave her the same advice - just go do the things you like doing or are interested in trying - and sure enough - she just happened across a man who she is now a couple of years into a VERY happy relationship with - and they are TWO awesome people who circumstantially just ended up single in their 30's. It happens a LOT and to be brutally honest moping around and being negative will not put out the attitude that draws people into wanting to get to know you. It will come. Even volunteering for not for profits is a great place to get busy and meet people - you end up on committees for fundraising etc.....

As for the other Pete - seriously????? UGH. I am a successful career woman/mother and dedicated wife. I am surrounded by women who are a lot like me - and I don't think any of them would spend more than 30 seconds listening to that kind of crap you are perpetuating. It is very unfortunate that you feel the way you do and I would warn you that you do reap what you sow. It is terribly unfair and inaccurate to paint an entire gender with such a tarnished and inaccurate brush. It would be unfair of any woman to generalize a male population based on some of the idiots any one of us have come across in our days. I will say that if someone like that were to show up in a group of the type of people I choose to be around - we would all choose NOT to encourage him/her to stick around - noxious.

LBrain

C'mon gals. It's not like we make you wear burkas now.

Petewill

Thanks for all the encouragement.. I actually feel better - what you have all said made me put things into a better perspective..

matt4x4

14 months and on step 5, might be an issue!!!!!!!!!!