Think I'm gonna' drink
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That is tough. I see in another post you gave him to his dad when he was 12. In that post you said that the dad was sober/stable but in this you call him an abusive alcoholic?
It sounds like there has been a terrible amount of upheaval, unrest and trauma in all of your lives. Your son has a right to be angry. Just like my kids will deal with the pain of their childhoods in due time.
I really like what LaFemme said
I hope your son gets there, too.
Drinking over it is not a mature response and is basically exactly what he's talking about. I'm so glad you went to a meeting.
It sounds like there has been a terrible amount of upheaval, unrest and trauma in all of your lives. Your son has a right to be angry. Just like my kids will deal with the pain of their childhoods in due time.
I really like what LaFemme said
It's taken me a lot of work to see my parents as human beings separate from me, with their own problems, demons and lives.
Drinking over it is not a mature response and is basically exactly what he's talking about. I'm so glad you went to a meeting.
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Had a great meeting. Got 4 phone numbers and I shared too. Afterwards I felt so much better. I went and apologized to my son and he said why are you apologizing Mom? He said my roommate and I 'debate' all the time. That's all it was. There is no reason to apologize...we weren't arguing. So I said...oh...o.k. Well I have always loved you and I always will. Then the two of us put on Christmas music and decorated the tree! We went to buy books at Barnes and Noble. I realized he was tired and stressed after finals. We had another 'debate' about alcoholism causes...he is a phycics major. After he said a few things about causes that I didn't believe...I said...well, you might be right. Then he didn't talk about it anymore. We had a wonderful night. I am so glad I decided to go to a meeting instead of drink! I told him how important my recovery was to me, meditation and prayer...because he had been talking about all this stuff he was doing. He seemed to be o.k. with it. Just praying to God to keep you magically sober every day doesn't work. You have to take the action which is for me to put my family second for once...and get myself to a meeting. I can't do this alone...I have tried repeatedly. For me...I need others. Thanks for reminding me of that.
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What a happy and positive outcome. These situations usually have the potential to go in a variety of directions depending on how we choose to react .... You took it and made it into something solid and positive .. Well done! .. VERY well done!!
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