Feel Like The Worst Mother Ever
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the only self-righteous attitude in this thread is your own.
I hate to say this, but your responses are defensive and only show that you don't much care. You say you deserve your kids, you are a "good mother", then you threaten to "kill yourself"....your head is not thinking clearly. Did you drink today???
Sarah made a very good suggestion...make a CHOICE...Booze? or your husband and children?
what are you going to do when he goes to an attorney and files for sole custody? He is obviously sick of your empty promises and is taking some action to protect himself and the children (Thank God someone is).
I hate to say this, but your responses are defensive and only show that you don't much care. You say you deserve your kids, you are a "good mother", then you threaten to "kill yourself"....your head is not thinking clearly. Did you drink today???
Sarah made a very good suggestion...make a CHOICE...Booze? or your husband and children?
what are you going to do when he goes to an attorney and files for sole custody? He is obviously sick of your empty promises and is taking some action to protect himself and the children (Thank God someone is).
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what do you want from me. i was just reaching out. I do care. i care so much. how can you all be so hateful and mean. what do you want me to do. you all are basically telling me that i should get what I deserve. all i want is some one to care. i'm so sad. i am trying to change. i'm working on it. i'm taking the steps, but that's not good enough for any of you. you all hate me now and judge me. my son is smiling at me right now. he loves me. my daughter and son love me. and i'm gonna change for them. give me a ****** chance. I havn't even touched a drop of alcohol in 2 whole days now. maybe this thread should be closed. i don't know how much more harrassment i can take. i feel worse after reading this thread than i did before i even posted on here. can't some one just care, any one.
Pink,
Why not take advantage of this time, while your children are being looked after, to get into an inpatient program? It will give you a safe place and time to begin your recovery and you can focus on getting well without distraction. From my own personal experience, alcoholism doesn't get better on its own. It only got worse for me.
Please take care of yourself so you can be in a space and position to care for your children.
Love,
Lenina
Why not take advantage of this time, while your children are being looked after, to get into an inpatient program? It will give you a safe place and time to begin your recovery and you can focus on getting well without distraction. From my own personal experience, alcoholism doesn't get better on its own. It only got worse for me.
Please take care of yourself so you can be in a space and position to care for your children.
Love,
Lenina
Why don't you go tonight? This is why we get so frustrated. 'in the next couple of days' is NOT the voice of someone who is serious about sobriety and who realizes that she is so close to losing everything.
Pink,
I'm glad you made the call. As you know, the stakes for you are very high. You could lose the custody of your children and your marriage.
It might be best for you and your children for you to go inpatient where there will be less stress for you as you start to learn about recovering.
It will give you time where you don't have to worry about keeping house, cooking, seeing to the household chores and you can give your attention fully to learning how to be sober.
Love,
Lenina
I'm glad you made the call. As you know, the stakes for you are very high. You could lose the custody of your children and your marriage.
It might be best for you and your children for you to go inpatient where there will be less stress for you as you start to learn about recovering.
It will give you time where you don't have to worry about keeping house, cooking, seeing to the household chores and you can give your attention fully to learning how to be sober.
Love,
Lenina
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Yes....
we are awful people who want your children safe.
They are not safe...and way too small to know this.
Of course they smile....they are innocent of what damage
your drinking has and will cause.
If you were a 21 year ols woman without kids I doubt we would
bother to keep on saying time after time...
Go get help.
I know I can only offer support ...if anyone keeps doing the same thing
obviously they are not interested in what I suggest.
your efforts are just not working...you need more.
we are awful people who want your children safe.
They are not safe...and way too small to know this.
Of course they smile....they are innocent of what damage
your drinking has and will cause.
If you were a 21 year ols woman without kids I doubt we would
bother to keep on saying time after time...
Go get help.
I know I can only offer support ...if anyone keeps doing the same thing
obviously they are not interested in what I suggest.
your efforts are just not working...you need more.
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I want my children to be safe as well. I love them. I will make things right. my husband believes in me. and he's all for supporting me to start going to AA and get some help. He believes i can do it. I will do it.
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pink, that is a breathe of fresh air, and makes me smile. I am happy to see the turn around. Please let us know how it goes. I think you will be so happy you are doing this.
Let me tell you, as a mother, it will not be easy, but it will be SO worth it.
Let me tell you, as a mother, it will not be easy, but it will be SO worth it.
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Good luck~
Try not to feel so sorry for yourself. Lots of the people on this forum are frustrated with you because you have been choosing alcohol over human life. That is very disheartening to hear. At the same time, we all know what a terrible thing alcohol is and how it takes over our lives and makes us do stupid things. In the end, we are still responsible for our actions though. No more alcohol, please. The first step to becoming the mother you want to be is staying sober. Motherhood isn't easy but it has it's own rewards... So don't give up. Make plans for lasting change.
Ok, don't make me regret being nice when everyone else has grown sick of it.
Try not to feel so sorry for yourself. Lots of the people on this forum are frustrated with you because you have been choosing alcohol over human life. That is very disheartening to hear. At the same time, we all know what a terrible thing alcohol is and how it takes over our lives and makes us do stupid things. In the end, we are still responsible for our actions though. No more alcohol, please. The first step to becoming the mother you want to be is staying sober. Motherhood isn't easy but it has it's own rewards... So don't give up. Make plans for lasting change.
Ok, don't make me regret being nice when everyone else has grown sick of it.
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Pink,nobody hates you,I promise. I guess people just get frustrated with folks who relapse over and over again and make no changes. they know what lies ahead fro you if you dont quit drinking and get help. I for one hope this is the wake up call you need to get some help and to realize once and for all that for folks like us,there is no moderate controlled drinking. We are incapable of handling our booze no matter how hard we try.Please Pink,get some help for yourself. Drunk and miserable is no way to go through life.... Keep posting at any rate.... God bless you
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Lots of the people on this forum are frustrated with you because you have been choosing alcohol over human life. QUOTE]
Do people forget that alcohol causes us to choose alcohol? People are being very harsh on this thread towards Pink.
Lots of the people on this forum are frustrated with you because you have been choosing alcohol over human life. QUOTE]
Do people forget that alcohol causes us to choose alcohol? People are being very harsh on this thread towards Pink.
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We are not here to fuss with each other.
Let's all chill please
Glad to see Pink is adding something to her life
that can be a wonderful beginning for Pink and family
Let's all chill please
Glad to see Pink is adding something to her life
that can be a wonderful beginning for Pink and family
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