boudiepitbull

Motivation, lost time, and wasted opportunity...

CAPTAINZING2000

It appears people are putting self respect down a lot.

Last perfect man was hung on a cross

Forgive thyself. true healing begins when we first forgive ourselves and then others!

fragrantrose

Dignity, self respect, respect of children
EMOTIONAL AND MENTAL WELLBEING
impaired functioning due to unmanageability in all areas of life

barb dwyer

My sons.

And I can't let that get said without adding
for those who don't know-
Fifteen eyars we were no contact.

Now we're all clean and sober.

And we're talking dialy.

It can turn around.
It can heal.

It's real. It's true.

shantra32

Time.......being loaded and hungover.........but no more......Day 33.

CAPTAINZING2000

Thank you for sharing that

It's in God's time not ours

mikefreak

Reputation
Dignity
Self - Respect
Family ( for a while)
Jobs
Finances
Friends
Sense of Self
The conception of Right & Wrong
Honor
Boundries
Love
Trust
Respect from others
Health ( recovering)
Career
Ambition
Happiness
And the list propably isn't complete.............................
Oh Yeah!! thirty + years of my life! (Nearly forgot that.)

Taking5

All of the above? Actually booze did a pretty good number on my 30s.

Lionne

Thanks for this thread captainzing, and all those who responded to it. It is relieving to find out that I'm not the only one having self respect issues at times.

Self respect and time....most of my twenties are gone, and being wasted all the time, I well...wasted so much energy,talent, creativity and opportunities to do awesome things. Drinking made me so lethargic that I was not interested anymore in the things I was passionate about both on a personal as on a careerwise level.

At times l feel like some parts of my personal, emotional and professional development have been put on hold since I was 20/21 or so. Time I'll never get back, and although I know I can still do some things, I sometimes have a hard time forgiving myself this. Add the pressures of society and my age group peers about what I should be supposed to do at this stage of my life...

So it can sometimes be hard to focus on what I have gained since I quit drinking instead of what I lost apparently or really, because I was drinking more and more heavily for the past 8+ years. Sorry to vent..., I'm a aware that this thinking is pointless, and a tad ungrateful, especially since there is so much now in my life that has dramatically improved since I'm sober but somehow I had to process these thoughts. So thanks for bearing with my ramblings...

Paulos

Mine is the loss of organization, what I used to once feel and have ...

tyler

I guess I have a little different take on the self respect issue. In a strange way, my self respect actually improved because of my "disease". To a large degree my lack of self respect was what brought me to drinking and drugging. I never had much self respect or even cared much for myself. That has changed for the much better since I stopped my substance abuse. I wish it hadn't taken 20 years of said abuse for this to occur, but I, in many ways find myself in a better place than I was before all of this started.

loveon2legs

I would have to say, my self..my morals and my values..the consequences from my drinking were all related to my lack of morals and values that my alcoholism created!! (wow was that a mouth full!!)

SugaFree

I was just about to say the same when I saw your post. Time. So much energy put into being drunk, everyday.

I also lost a lot of friends because of my reclusive behavior.

saturi19

healing is a state of mind that comes with time. Just like being drunk was a state of mind that came with time. I have been sober 9 years 6 months 2 days and my mouth still waters when I see a beer or a gin.....it never goes away it may get easier than day one but the desire for beer/gin will never disappear! Loosing self respect is what we deserve but that to will return in time. The fact is that TIME IS THE GREAT HEALER! Congrats to all of you who did not drink today! I respect you for your power to control your disease!

armaviva

self respect for sure. im still trying to get it back and each time i slip up i feel like i lose a little more. no a lot more

LosingmyMisery

I lost my soul.

The good news, I gained it back. I learned to heal and discovered who I really was. Something I don't think I ever really knew. I was broken for many years. The journey back up was very valuable. If I hadn't of drifted so low, I never would have learned what it is I needed to to grow, heal and thrive. Sounds strange, but so true.

PrettyViolets

I will speak from a different perspective. My husband struggled with alcoholism. He lost his job and struggled with findiing and keeping a job. We almost got a divorce and were separated. He is doing better now. He now has been in his job over a year (first he was part-time, and then in May he went full-time). And we moved back together to the same apartment this past May.

I struggled during this time with two miscarriages that were very painful. I am happy to say that we are expecting a baby boy in July. That baby boy is just a blessing from God.

Ozgirl

Definitely self respect. That horrible shameful feeling the next day and feeling worthless.

Lilly Burn

Where is the woman I loved enough to marry...option.....the person who loved me and for whom I made life so hard...who still loved me an alcoholic or not, who I abandoned without a thought...where is that option!! The person I left devastated when all I could think about was what I wanted...just a phone call to say I was an alcoholic and wasnt coming back.....just a thought guys and gals! It was all about you when you were drinking and its all about you when you are not...interesting, I know its an AA adage but hey ho....

CAPTAINZING2000

for a little over 50% it is on here.