sunkensky

She has always been dramatic as long as I've known her. She had a parent who was an alcoholic, maybe she learned those behaviors there. Thanks for your input.

As for the test, thanks but I've taken it.

sunkensky

I think know what you mean there. I run from things too. I don't give anyone a fair chance. Not even close. Sometimes thinking about that does torture me.

SaTiT

I know what you mean, i run from a lot of things.
But that's what recovery offers me...a way out of the suffering.
Living tools, a new way of life people, friends. and someone that
can kinda understands me. Because when i open up...it's hard enough
for me to just do that..

The only thing is..none of those live tools will make any sense
if I was still using. Bascially I traded misery for soberiety.
I bascially got sick and tired of running....didn't really wanted to stop using.
I just got sick and tired. So i had to make a chioce...
Would I still run or accept happiness.

barb dwyer

so maybe .. stay off booze .. but fake a limp or something??

ok - I apologize ... that was tacky.

Sorry. Been a rough day.

sunkensky

Well...I laughed.

I like a sarcastic joke.

sunkensky

How are you doing, though, barb? What's wrong?

fraankie

man,
what you have is a sort of alcoholic "silence of the lambs" type friend
she uses the downtrodden to inflate her ego and superiority
as long as those around her have problems
then of course, she is "perfect'
also, it takes the focus off herself
and
she meows to others of their lack of strenght
she plays her guitar with the strings of others weaknesses

in reality,
the whole world does it
america woould not be superior
thew greatest country in the world
if there were no starving children in africa
kinda sad
even sadder
is she will continue this behavior
of downtrodding the downtrodden
without waking up



best
fraankie

sunkensky

I wouldn't paint her like that. She's a good, kind and caring person who has some faults like we all do.

fraankie

ok
just a rainy saturday afternoon


best
fraankie

sunkensky

Didn't mean to be snappy! Sorry.

Grasshopper

hmmmm,scratching my head here..lol
You say that she has labled you an alcoholic.
When she plays bartender--you say that,she makes ours last so that she can add---tons---more alcohol.
And then you say she likes to fix you??
How by encouraging you to drink lots more alcoholc,as she believes your alcoholic?
When offering to fix,it makes more sence to me,if when palying bartender,she would put less,or little to no alcohol in your drinks.
call me dumb,lol
to see folks as broken is simply a judgement.

care4uNJ

Very well said, Grasshopper!! So true!!!

fraankie

"................to see folks as broken is simply a judgement.............."\
this a is a whole 'nother story

i remember
like way back when
i had a psyche in a rehab
give me the "cloudy brain" syndrome
and
like, for real
what is going on

then, i asked a doctor i respected about it
he said
it had no relevance
so
maybe the psyche was trying to scare me, etc
but
as for "broken people"
like who is labeling who
the term is a misnomer
everyone is an individual
and
should be accepted for what they are
i mean,
can everyone be the president, the pope, the dahli lama
and
to them
to coin leona helmsley
everyone is "the little people"


best
fraankie

ps another sunny sunday

sunkensky

lol. yeah it makes no sense.

i guess i'm over it.

it was just a silly trend i noticed a few times, which means it was probably nothing and i was overanalysing.

SaTiT

I was always saying , if I had a chance or half of a chance to make things right,
that I would.
And it's would a snowball in hell if I'll ever stopped drinking and hell would freeze over.

I took my chances on AA and hell did freeze over.

GhostInTheRuins

Yes, and years later I still don't know what to make of it. A woman I was very close to collected 'strays' or 'broken people' but I don't think it was intentional. She could go to the store and bring back 2 interesting/unusual/eclectic new friends. People were just drawn to her. We talked about it once and guessed they all had abandonment issues (myself likely included.) They were also usually submissive types. She was definitely aware of it and seemed a bit perplexed by it but there was no diabolical aspect to it that I could see.

She was the least judgmental and most accepting person I've known too. I once had a living room full of transvestites on Halloween night, all her 'friends,' and they seemed to worship her. That whole night was a David Lynch movie but that's another story.

Different night she invited over a friend and I was all nervous about meeting her and she says 'ohh, don't worry. you'll like her...she's an alcoholic!' I didn't take offense, she wasn't being mean - just stating the obvious (she was too.) I don't know what my point is anymore. In reality, my GF was probably one of the more troubled people in any given group but everybody thought she 'had it together.'

Tazman53

Nothing forcing you to drink it is there? LOL I know being the good alcoholic I am that in my early years of drinking I would have gladly been broken for some one like her!!! Man what a deal, I knew I wasn't an alcoholic then (I laugh at my foolish denial then and know now that one symptom of alcoholism is denial), here is a good looking lady pouring my booze for me and taking care of me!!! Shoot I would be in love with her.

sunkensky

lol.