justjo

Firstly, I do get it. I am a sucker trying to play god. Give me a break will ya..
I guess Its because I am scared stupid she will DIE. I guess once I realize it is totally out of my control if she lives or dies, I will get it.
Thanks

Music

Start taking care of yourself and those kids you've been talking about. Brakes are for cars! You've been given a break by not being a drunk like your sister. Stop feeling like I'm picking on you, get your head out of your butt and get help for yourself and those kids.

barb dwyer

justjo -

There is only One Thing that determines whether we live or die.
One. Thing. Only.

And It isn't us.

teej

I wish you & her the best jo. And those kids!!

Peter

Nothing much I can add to what's already been said jo. I think you get the message that the only thing you can do is let her go and look after yourself.

She knows where the meetings are.She knows how to pick up the phone and call the rehab centre.

Best of luck to you.

leviathon

No idea how bad she has to get on her own... that's individual for each alcoholic. However, she is in pity mode and you are preventing her from hitting her personal bottom by engaging her. You spent an hour talking to someone with a drinking problem while they are drinking and whining and excusing their behaviour.

As long as you do that, she will continue. Why not, you don't mind ...

Sorry, this is harsh, but you want to help her, talk to her only when she is sober. If she calls drinking, tell her sorry, call back when you are sober. Stick to it.

Peace, Levi

justjo

Hey Music, I pulled my head out now hahahaha....
Ok just in a few short days, have hung up on her. She begged me to take her into the city so she could start a course. I said no, (to tell you the truth I was ill)
Text me on the mobile this morning to tell me shes giving up.
I'll stay strong and pray she doesnt die OK.

Music

JJ, whatever she does, it isn't up to you. Thanks for letting me know where your head is. Hang in there.

hope3

Justo, I hear your pain, and am sorry you are going through this..

Has she been in a treatment that also included any of the medications

for cravings, I've read on the Niaaa site, the addiction book and beyond the influence that in alot of cases where people were having many relapses that the medications with ongoing therapy and 12 step programs are the best a person con do for themselves..One other thing, has she been dually diagnosed for anything else?

I also suggest you read the exerpts from Under the Influence in the stickies of the alcoholism forum...

I wish your sister, and you the best, shes very lucky to have a sister like you that cares so much about her...Hope3