Question on AA and God
AA- If you keep going to meetings for several years and your constantly thinking about Alcholol. I guess maybe it is as straightforward as recovery is not 1 size fits all.
2nd question since god is almighty and knowing. How is it possible we have free will if God already knows everything that will happen? If i believed this then the choice i make was already made. Sorry to be like the matrix but i do ponder these. I am open minded and not trying to start a debate. Just open to others thoughts. Thank you in advance.
2nd question since god is almighty and knowing. How is it possible we have free will if God already knows everything that will happen? If i believed this then the choice i make was already made. Sorry to be like the matrix but i do ponder these. I am open minded and not trying to start a debate. Just open to others thoughts. Thank you in advance.
The god of my understanding knows what exists in the endless realm of possibilities. I have free will to choose which fork in the road I'll take, my HP knows what lies ahead on each path.
Step 3
“Everyone has a life-or-death decision to make. We have all been created with the supreme privilege of free will-the ability to choose. Even when we are in the bondage of our addictions, we still have choices confronting us. When we are in recovery, we face the nagging lure of falling back into our addictions. The freedom to choose brings with it the burden of the consequences of out choices. These choices affect our life and the lives of our children. Free will is our blessing and our responsibility!
God spoke through Moses, saying, “Now listen! Today I am giving you a choice between life and death, between prosperity and disaster. For I command you this day to love the Lord your God and to keep His commands, decrees, and regulations by walking in His ways. If you do this, you will live…and the Lord your God will bless you…But if your heart turns away and you refuse to listen, … then I warn you now that you will certainly be destroyed…Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on have and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live! You can make this choice by loving the Lord your God, obeying Him, and committing yourself firmly to Him. This is the key to your life” (Deu 30:15-20)
Although we may feel out of control with respect to our addictions, we can choose to set our heart in the direction of life. We can choose to love God and begin to follow His program.”
The Life Recovery Bible, pp 255, “Step 3, Free to Choose,” "We made a decision to turn our will and our life over the the care of God (as we understood Him)." Arterburn and Stoop, Tyndale Publishing.
God spoke through Moses, saying, “Now listen! Today I am giving you a choice between life and death, between prosperity and disaster. For I command you this day to love the Lord your God and to keep His commands, decrees, and regulations by walking in His ways. If you do this, you will live…and the Lord your God will bless you…But if your heart turns away and you refuse to listen, … then I warn you now that you will certainly be destroyed…Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on have and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live! You can make this choice by loving the Lord your God, obeying Him, and committing yourself firmly to Him. This is the key to your life” (Deu 30:15-20)
Although we may feel out of control with respect to our addictions, we can choose to set our heart in the direction of life. We can choose to love God and begin to follow His program.”
The Life Recovery Bible, pp 255, “Step 3, Free to Choose,” "We made a decision to turn our will and our life over the the care of God (as we understood Him)." Arterburn and Stoop, Tyndale Publishing.
Hope this helps...
I really appreciate this informatiom skg. That is very detailed and probably one of the best explanations i have seen.
In all honesty i am still searching for my higher power. I can't comprehend science and biblical texts. This may be the wrong thread area for my questions. I am not closed on the higher power or god even in the Christian sense. I am still exploring to see what makes sense to me. Anyway i appreciate your effort and willingness to help.
In all honesty i am still searching for my higher power. I can't comprehend science and biblical texts. This may be the wrong thread area for my questions. I am not closed on the higher power or god even in the Christian sense. I am still exploring to see what makes sense to me. Anyway i appreciate your effort and willingness to help.
I'm not constantly thinking about alcohol. Thanks to the 12 steps, the problem has been removed. There is nothing to "fight". No carvings, obsession etc. Meetings along won't do that.
The god of my understanding knows what exists in the endless realm of possibilities. I have free will to choose which fork in the road I'll take, my HP knows what lies ahead on each path.
The god of my understanding knows what exists in the endless realm of possibilities. I have free will to choose which fork in the road I'll take, my HP knows what lies ahead on each path.
In all honesty i am still searching for my higher power. I can't comprehend science and biblical texts. This may be the wrong thread area for my questions. I am not closed on the higher power or god even in the Christian sense. I am still exploring to see what makes sense to me. Anyway i appreciate your effort and willingness to help.
Personally, I had to realize that I'm not looking for a destination--an AHA! but a path whereby I can build a relationship with my understanding of my Creator. Not a 'borg-like' connection, but a sharing in the treasures of companionship with Him.
The fact that you're searching suggests you'll continue to find. The cool thing about looking for things is that I find so many other peripheral cool things along the way. Walk the journey, rely on Guidance, and enjoy the experience. Then look back in after a few weeks, months or years and realize how much growth has occurred...
And stay sobah along the way!!
I really appreciate this informatiom skg. That is very detailed and probably one of the best explanations i have seen.
In all honesty i am still searching for my higher power. I can't comprehend science and biblical texts. This may be the wrong thread area for my questions. I am not closed on the higher power or god even in the Christian sense. I am still exploring to see what makes sense to me. Anyway i appreciate your effort and willingness to help.
In all honesty i am still searching for my higher power. I can't comprehend science and biblical texts. This may be the wrong thread area for my questions. I am not closed on the higher power or god even in the Christian sense. I am still exploring to see what makes sense to me. Anyway i appreciate your effort and willingness to help.
I was not one of those who found God in steps two or three. To me those steps where a choice for the spiritual path of recovery and a decision to do whatever was necessary to find that relationship with a higher power.
The first real feeling came immediately after step five, exactly as described in the fifth step promises. It was so strong I had no problem moving through the rest of the steps.
For me, a conscious relationship with God came as the result of the steps.
I will think about alcohol daily with or without AA. That's just how my brain works. AA is there to help me think about not drinking instead of being on my own and thinking ONLY of that.
I am lucky my cravings haven't been like that. They have actually gone done alot. We are all different and had different habits. I am glad AA is working well for you. I will.be starting the big book soon.
I didn't find relief from my obsession with alcohol until I did my fifth step. The relief from the obsession is in the steps.
I spent 3 months trying to figure out what my higher power was. I finally started working the steps knowing only that I wasn't God. While I worked the steps my concept of a higher power formed and I had a slow spiritual awakening. I guess my point is you don't have to have a higher power nailed down to a "t" to work the steps. Just openmindedness and willingness.
I spent 3 months trying to figure out what my higher power was. I finally started working the steps knowing only that I wasn't God. While I worked the steps my concept of a higher power formed and I had a slow spiritual awakening. I guess my point is you don't have to have a higher power nailed down to a "t" to work the steps. Just openmindedness and willingness.
tenth step promises
And we have ceased fighting anything or anyone - even alcohol. For by this time sanity will have returned. We will seldom be interested in liquor. If tempted, we recoil from it as from a hot flame. We react sanely and normally, and we will find that this has happened automatically. We will see that our new attitude toward liquor has been given us without any thought or effort on our part. It just comes! That is the miracle of it. We are not fighting it, neither are we avoiding temptation. We feel as though we had been placed in a position of neutrality - safe and protected. We have not even sworn off. Instead, the problem has been removed. It does not exist for us. We are neither cocky nor are we afraid. That is our experience. That is how we react so long as we keep in fit spiritual condition
And we have ceased fighting anything or anyone - even alcohol. For by this time sanity will have returned. We will seldom be interested in liquor. If tempted, we recoil from it as from a hot flame. We react sanely and normally, and we will find that this has happened automatically. We will see that our new attitude toward liquor has been given us without any thought or effort on our part. It just comes! That is the miracle of it. We are not fighting it, neither are we avoiding temptation. We feel as though we had been placed in a position of neutrality - safe and protected. We have not even sworn off. Instead, the problem has been removed. It does not exist for us. We are neither cocky nor are we afraid. That is our experience. That is how we react so long as we keep in fit spiritual condition
Oh I don't really have any cravings anymore, but I think about my alcoholism daily because if i don't it will sneak up on me and pull me right back in! (watch out for that sneaky SOB! lol)
This is what I think. AA is good for getting people to sober up. It introduces spiritual ideas, which is also good. But it doesn't have a particularly sophisticated system of theology or a well developed pastoral care approach, beyond the sponsor-sponsee system. For that you may need to turn to a church or another religious organisation. It's not that churches have all the answers - of course they don't. But they can frame the questions in a more enlightened way sometimes, based on many centuries of experience.
Fifth Step Promises:
" Once we have taken this step, withholding nothing, we are delighted. We can look the world in the eye. We can be alone at perfect peace and ease. Our fears fall from us. We begin to feel the nearness of our Creator. We may have had certain spiritual beliefs, but now we begin to have a spiritual experience. The feeling that the drink problem has disappeared will often come strongly. We feel we are on the Broad Highway, walking hand in hand with the Spirit of the Universe."
" Once we have taken this step, withholding nothing, we are delighted. We can look the world in the eye. We can be alone at perfect peace and ease. Our fears fall from us. We begin to feel the nearness of our Creator. We may have had certain spiritual beliefs, but now we begin to have a spiritual experience. The feeling that the drink problem has disappeared will often come strongly. We feel we are on the Broad Highway, walking hand in hand with the Spirit of the Universe."
A lot of the steps I'd say phone calls and e-mails might suffice, if the meetings you're getting to are developing your understanding and giving you a chance to talk about the steps. Step 4 and step 5 though, do tend to take quite a long session, and I can't imagine how step 5 in particular would work anyway other than face to face, real time.
As far as how long they take? Every one is different. It's not something you should rush, as each has a special importance. The first three tend not to take very long, but step 4 took quite a while.
Read the Big Book and it'll become clearer. Have you got the 12 and 12 to look at as well?
As far as how long they take? Every one is different. It's not something you should rush, as each has a special importance. The first three tend not to take very long, but step 4 took quite a while.
Read the Big Book and it'll become clearer. Have you got the 12 and 12 to look at as well?
PS Sometimes trying to find definite answers is another way of trying to control (ie. trying to control the unknown, which can be fear inducing). But there are not always going to be straightforward, or readily available, or definitive answers. No matter how much we chase after them. This is where acceptance can save us so much energy and sanity, which can be used more effectively in developing new and sober habits instead. One of the biggest steps for me in this process was accepting that I will not always KNOW everything. It isn't my job to know everything. I'm not in charge, and I can just get on with being in the moment; keeping my side of the street clean; and let the God of my understanding (which for me is that I finally understand and accept that it is beyond me to understand God in the way that I understand more physical things: My flea on the back of a bear image) deal with the bits that are outside of my control.
I try to keep things one day at a time, and also one Step at a time. If we're on step one, we should focus on that. Give it our all. Not giving it just some of our attention, while the other bit of us is concerning itself with step 5, or Step 7, or the meaning of life, or whether Old so and so should do such and such. What ever step we are currently on, that's like the bit of street we should be keeping clean. Let Go (of the rest) and Let God (deal with that s**t). If I go to a meeting and they're discussing a different step, then maybe I'll hear something I need to. But equally, that may well be about a step I already thought I had wrapped up, as well as any I'll be working towards, and is not me trying to bring it about. It just 'happened'.
I try to keep things one day at a time, and also one Step at a time. If we're on step one, we should focus on that. Give it our all. Not giving it just some of our attention, while the other bit of us is concerning itself with step 5, or Step 7, or the meaning of life, or whether Old so and so should do such and such. What ever step we are currently on, that's like the bit of street we should be keeping clean. Let Go (of the rest) and Let God (deal with that s**t). If I go to a meeting and they're discussing a different step, then maybe I'll hear something I need to. But equally, that may well be about a step I already thought I had wrapped up, as well as any I'll be working towards, and is not me trying to bring it about. It just 'happened'.
Remember: there is no 'one size fits all' recovery.
Do you foresee not being able to meet your sponsor in person?
I think that if you can get to meetings, you can get to your sponsor.
I believe that working with a sponsor face to face is far and away the best option, if at all possible.
Personally, I needed to get out there in the real world with real alcoholics and try to be rigorously honest.
Staying behind this keyboard just wouldn't work for me . . .
not for long anyway.
This forum does not transmit my tone of voice, let alone my facial expressions and body language.
Alcohol isolated me.
Or should I say: alcohol helped me to isolate myself?
AA set me free.
Or should I say: AA helped me, and helps me, to BE free?
Yes!
I humbly suggest that you attend more meetings, letitgo.
Try and find a sponsor that you can work with.
Work through the steps with honesty, openness and willingness -- in so far as you are able.
Don't wait for more answers to more questions.
Don't wait until you've read another book . . .
even the Big Book.
When you have a sponsor, how quickly you work through the steps will be up to the two of you.
Remember: there is no 'one size fits all' recovery.
Do you foresee not being able to meet your sponsor in person?
I think that if you can get to meetings, you can get to your sponsor.
I believe that working with a sponsor face to face is far and away the best option, if at all possible.
Personally, I needed to get out there in the real world with real alcoholics and try to be rigorously honest.
Staying behind this keyboard just wouldn't work for me . . .
not for long anyway.
This forum does not transmit my tone of voice, let alone my facial expressions and body language.
Alcohol isolated me.
Or should I say: alcohol helped me to isolate myself?
AA set me free.
Or should I say: AA helped me, and helps me, to BE free?
Yes!
I humbly suggest that you attend more meetings, letitgo.
Try and find a sponsor that you can work with.
Work through the steps with honesty, openness and willingness -- in so far as you are able.
Don't wait for more answers to more questions.
Don't wait until you've read another book . . .
even the Big Book.
Remember: there is no 'one size fits all' recovery.
Do you foresee not being able to meet your sponsor in person?
I think that if you can get to meetings, you can get to your sponsor.
I believe that working with a sponsor face to face is far and away the best option, if at all possible.
Personally, I needed to get out there in the real world with real alcoholics and try to be rigorously honest.
Staying behind this keyboard just wouldn't work for me . . .
not for long anyway.
This forum does not transmit my tone of voice, let alone my facial expressions and body language.
Alcohol isolated me.
Or should I say: alcohol helped me to isolate myself?
AA set me free.
Or should I say: AA helped me, and helps me, to BE free?
Yes!
I humbly suggest that you attend more meetings, letitgo.
Try and find a sponsor that you can work with.
Work through the steps with honesty, openness and willingness -- in so far as you are able.
Don't wait for more answers to more questions.
Don't wait until you've read another book . . .
even the Big Book.
Really questioning if I am doing the right thing in life. I am leaving for another trip. I travel for significant periods of time. I have a ton of medical bills to keep up on. I am hurting myself and family by not being home on a daily basis.
This time i will be with a colleague and I am going to tell him i am sober so the temptaion doesnt come up. I was with hime the last time i relapsed and he is a drinker. We will likely go.out to eat which is fine. I will not go to a bar with him.
I know 3 things at least
My life is unmanageable if I drink.
I can not control everything.
I am grateful for what i have.
So any advice on either front is greatly appreciated.
letitgo, id highly suggest lookin ahead to whever you are traveling and finding meetings to attend while on the road. only going to meetings when youre in your hometown isnt a requirement. you can go to meetings everywhere.
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