lauren

Pippi..sorry you aren't feeling well..just thoughts here..nothing judgmental..I
understand depression and the confusion..your children chat with each other,
hence the agreement about a father..
this is good..it shows a strong bond between themselves..perhaps and again just an observation..
maybe it would healthy for the children to also have therapy to sort out their
thoughts on the relationship with yourself and their Dad.

I know my Mom married to take care of her brood..it was never a love bond..
yet we were happy she was secure..if in those times we could of had counseling,
we may of been able to see the whole picture..and would have been able to see
it at our own level of understanding rather than the visual which was there,
we simply didn't understand due to our ages.


I wish you well..

lauren

Santa

10k run? What happened to almost died this weekend?

amy55

So you ran over 6 miles against doctors order, you are worried about your childrens future if perhaps you die, and you want to find them a new daddy, but you intentionally did something against your doctors order.



Perhaps find a new therapist

amy55

Forgive my last post, I'm going to try to do better here. I guess I just don't understand why after all the threads are closed about MG (married guy #1, #2, #3,) why would you post something about, what I see people as seeing here, is using a guy to be your babies daddy?

I am on my own for almost 6 years now. I don't want to date yet. I still have ptsd. I might have joked once in awhile that I just want a man around to help me do things and then at the end of the day, I just wanted to hang him up in the tool shed with the rest of the tools, but there is no way I could ever do that.

They are people. I love all of my male friends. I would never want to use them or manipulate them or pretend I am that dumb blond that can't do anything. They all mean too much to me for me to treat them that way. I most definitely would not marry someone just because of the benefits they could provide for me even though I didn't love them. In a way I think that is what is upsetting a lot of the people here.

If that is your culture, and that is what you want, then do it, just don't expect us to agree with this.

I need to say something else, when I was married I had an expensive hobby. It was gardening. I had a lot of gardens. I couldn't afford to do that anymore. I am finally going to start doing that again, but I will be growing mostly from seeds. They are cheaper. I'm not taking time away from my family by doing this hobby.

Rosiepetal

Pippi
Firstly get well soon.
Secondly it is not YOUR responsibility to provide a father figure in your children's lives.
Your only responsibility is to be the best Mum you can be.
It's as simple as that.

lauren

Being the mother of an addict..wow..when the sharks smell blood..
Perhaps a more gentle place to be would be F/friends of Substance abusers.
Think about it..

BoxinRotz

Before this thread gets locked down, I know what you need...

B.O.B. With a stock of batteries.

DesertEyes

Okay people, there are a lot of newcomers that need to be introduced to SR. The original issues in this thread have been covered, several times.

This thread is now closed.

Mike
Moderator, SR