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While we like to imagine that our beliefs are rational, logical, and objective, the fact is that our ideas are often based on paying attention to the information that upholds our ideas and ignoring the information that challenges our existing beliefs.
I never understood why some members get so wrapped up and/or upset at how others works their program.
I never understood why some members get so wrapped up and/or upset at how others works their program.
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While we like to imagine that our beliefs are rational, logical, and objective, the fact is that our ideas are often based on paying attention to the information that upholds our ideas and ignoring the information that challenges our existing beliefs.
I never understood why some members get so wrapped up and/or upset at how others works their program.
I never understood why some members get so wrapped up and/or upset at how others works their program.
ideas..thoughts..opinions..are always good in my book
Not to mention, using willpower to not-drink is not the same as following some kind of program (not necessarily a 12 step program). One is a "Don't Do" program while the other is a "Do Do" program (not to be confused with "na-na, na-na, boo-boo, stick your head in doo-doo").
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Finally, someone gets my drift. There is a big difference between "Wanting" to not-drink and "doing" whatever it takes to stop drinking. One is a form of action, the other is just wishful thinking.
Not to mention, using willpower to not-drink is not the same as following some kind of program (not necessarily a 12 step program). One is a "Don't Do" program while the other is a "Do Do" program (not to be confused with "na-na, na-na, boo-boo, stick your head in doo-doo).
Not to mention, using willpower to not-drink is not the same as following some kind of program (not necessarily a 12 step program). One is a "Don't Do" program while the other is a "Do Do" program (not to be confused with "na-na, na-na, boo-boo, stick your head in doo-doo).
your program is not do do Boleo..I assume it's AA..but I don't know.
for one thing you didn't explain what you need to do to stop drinking besides just stop drinking..honestly you OP doesn't make any sense to me..it's funny how you think willpower..or belief in oneself is wishful thinking..and a belief that a higher power will cure you is a form of action. ..I don't know if you are trying to form an idea...or cheerlead a program. something that is rarely done ..i wish i could understand what you saying..really i do
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Originally Posted by Ken33xx
While we like to imagine that our beliefs are rational, logical, and objective, the fact is that our ideas are often based on paying attention to the information that upholds our ideas and ignoring the information that challenges our existing beliefs.
I never understood why some members get so wrapped up and/or upset at how others works their program.
I never understood why some members get so wrapped up and/or upset at how others works their program.
Originally Posted by Boleo
Not to mention, using willpower to not-drink is not the same as following some kind of program
Following suggestions guarantees the following;
1. Commitment to take action
2. Willingness to learn new ways
3. Courage to change
4. Practicing new principles
5. Open-mindedness
it's funny how you think willpower..or belief in oneself is wishful thinking..and a belief that a higher power will cure you is a form of action. ..
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you don't have to discount the power of the human will to get sober..If you look at statistics the majority of people get over their addiction this way..real alcoholics.
without your willpower or truly wanting to quit you are left with spiritual intervention or tricking your own mind with something like a placebo..For somebody who is truly an atheist they would have to say that everybody gets better by their own doing in the end regardless of their adopted philosophy...
without your willpower or truly wanting to quit you are left with spiritual intervention or tricking your own mind with something like a placebo..For somebody who is truly an atheist they would have to say that everybody gets better by their own doing in the end regardless of their adopted philosophy...
We are never cured from alcoholism. Our sanity from a hopeless state of mind is restored through a power greater than ourselves. We recover from our disease by practicing steps 10-12.
Being cured would imply we could once again drink like a normal drinker and I know that is not what you meant or implied but wanted to point out.
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those aren't steps or actions..those are philosophies you adopt..i'm really not buying 2-5 with what you post especially 5..i think you are more of a teacher then a learner
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Originally Posted by Boleo
On the other hand, I have meet many who got results by taking at least some of the 5 actions mentioned above (even outside of the 12 steps).
1-5 are common sense concepts. You can find them in the 12 steps, you can find them in AVRT, you can find them in Christianity, you can find them in Buddhism…
"you can find them in a boat, you can find them with a goat"...
The Eightfold Path
1. Right Understanding (Samma ditthi)
2. Right Thought (Samma sankappa)
3. Right Speech (Samma vaca)
4. Right Action (Samma kammanta)
5. Right Livelihood (Samma ajiva)
6. Right Effort (Samma vayama)
7. Right Mindfulness (Samma sati)
8. Right Concentration (Samma samadhi)
To me, the good thing about SR is that everyone's experience is valuable.
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Originally Posted by Boleo
I have been to too many funerals to buy into that theory.
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1. Commitment to take action
2. Willingness to learn new ways
3. Courage to change
4. Practicing new principles
5. Open-mindedness
2. Willingness to learn new ways
3. Courage to change
4. Practicing new principles
5. Open-mindedness
Originally Posted by GracieLou
Where is that beating a dead horse smiley? I think it is warranted right about now! LOL
7 of the 12 steps mention God, a higher power, or spiritual experience. None mention not drinking. I think that needs to be kept in mind if one is looking for a way to get sober.
For me, I needed to stop drinking not find God. And I am so grateful that I found that way and am enjoying my sober life to the fullest.
For me, I needed to stop drinking not find God. And I am so grateful that I found that way and am enjoying my sober life to the fullest.
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