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Old 10-27-2010, 09:55 PM
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How do I know that I really "get" step one?

What are some examples of this? What would indicate I'm ready to move forward?
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Old 11-19-2010, 12:17 AM
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I don't know - Maybe if you try the next step and it's really hard? ... then you aren't ready.

I'm wondering if you can keep going back to step 1 for different reasons... i.e. right now - i'm there for an entirely different circumstance than I was 2 years ago.
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Old 11-21-2010, 09:02 PM
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As a recovering RA, I found as I went thru the steps that many of the steps had to be redone. I kept having to do step one admit I was powerless and also step 3 handing it all over to my hp. I am really good at hanging onto things that aren't mine to keep. So I have to constantly admit to step one Again because of this and this is very very normal in recovery to go back over it. Even when a new crisis hits, it's back thru the steps many times to surrender. And with surrender comes acceptance and peace.
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I often call it the recovery waltz as I revisit some of the steps in my life over and over again. One-two-ten seems to be my favorite variation.

I knew I was "getting" step one when I started to recognize more and more things in my life over which I was truly powerless. I stopped struggling so much with the people, places and things in my life that just weren't going the way I wanted them to.
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Wow, thanks everyone! I guess I saw the steps as a "check it off" sort of thing, but based on what you said, it's okay to see it more fluid - with back and forths being okay. Crazy as it sounds, that helps a lot because I know I've conquered some of the other steps, but keep finding myself back at step one, then feel like I'm failing the whole process. I need to buckle down and just keep at it. THANKS!!!
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Old 07-10-2011, 11:31 AM
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The steps have no time line.
Take your time....if you feel ready to move on.....go for it.
You can always go back and revisit the previous step.
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Old 09-22-2011, 12:04 AM
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Fluid v check off list

I like that! Makes it clear for me to understand. Thanks!
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I am totally lost. I need to find a way to be at peace with my daughter's addiction. I understand I cannot make her quit drinking, but does this mean I cannot have a relationship with her at all? Sometimes I am not even sure I want a relationship with her.
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Old 05-14-2012, 07:45 PM
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I am totally lost. I need to find a way to be at peace with my daughter's addiction. I understand I cannot make her quit drinking, but does this mean I cannot have a relationship with her at all? Sometimes I am not even sure I want a relationship with her.
I had the same thoughts as you. Someone here recommended the book: "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie that taught me the idea of loving detachment.

I think if you post in the Friends and Family of Alcoholics or Friends and Family of Substance Abusers forums you will get more replies faster than in the study forums.

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Old 04-12-2013, 12:53 PM
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I practice Step 1 everyday, every minute of my life, and will do so as long as I live. In order to do any other step, Step 1 is essential to do over and over again. It's a way of life. (It has so much more meaning, depth, significance/beauty than the first time I worked it many years ago.)
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