Why are you where you are in sobriety
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Originally Posted by luckedog 
Just curious, What one thing, or couple of things, can you point to;
1. As being the main thing that got you sober!
1. As being the main thing that got you sober!
2. The main reason you STAY sober now?
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I Have recently Google for the definition of word, "secular". OK, I "get it"...
1. First reason, The physical allergy, I did not know there was such a thing.
I cannot stop, I tried to drink/ sip wine like others.
2. My mind, I was cornered trying to live a life, what are the rules for living sober?
Don't drink?
1. First reason, The physical allergy, I did not know there was such a thing.
I cannot stop, I tried to drink/ sip wine like others.
2. My mind, I was cornered trying to live a life, what are the rules for living sober?
Don't drink?
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1. As being the main thing that got you sober!
The realizations that a) moderation doesn't work for me because alcoholism is a brain thing, and b) that I could continue to make booze my priority in life and suffer the continued consequences on my health, mental health, relationships, and finances. OR I could QUIT! which suddenly became the obviously SANE choice in a strange moment of clarity type deal during my last time drunk.
2. The main reason you STAY sober now?
Again, two realizations: a) that moderation doesn't work for me because alcoholism is a brain thing, and b) Life is much better this way. Even though coping with emotions can be harder, and I had to make radical changes to my social life, everything else really is tons better now: physical and mental health, relationships, finances, you got it. I would never throw it away, and strongly believe that recovery is the best thing I've ever done.
The realizations that a) moderation doesn't work for me because alcoholism is a brain thing, and b) that I could continue to make booze my priority in life and suffer the continued consequences on my health, mental health, relationships, and finances. OR I could QUIT! which suddenly became the obviously SANE choice in a strange moment of clarity type deal during my last time drunk.
2. The main reason you STAY sober now?
Again, two realizations: a) that moderation doesn't work for me because alcoholism is a brain thing, and b) Life is much better this way. Even though coping with emotions can be harder, and I had to make radical changes to my social life, everything else really is tons better now: physical and mental health, relationships, finances, you got it. I would never throw it away, and strongly believe that recovery is the best thing I've ever done.
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Originally Posted by LaFemme
Welcome Vlad! You are right...that is heartbreaking. How long have you been sober?
I boxed up the bar and threw it in the HOA dumpster that night. Had no withdrawal symptoms except insomnia, but I've been an insomniac since I was a kid. No withdrawal surprised me as I was drinking 375 - 500 cc of bourbon a night for years. I could easily kill a half gallon in three days. I changed the desktop photo on every computer I use to a pic of the kids. I taped a picture to the dashboard of the car. I also glued pictures of them to an aluminum Mardi Gras coin, sealed it and kept it in my pocket with my cash. When I wanted to drink, wherever I looked was a visual reminder of why I had to stay sober and alive.
I had a long conversation with my Minister and he pushed me hard to attend meetings there at the church. I was a coward and went across town because I didn't want to face anyone I knew. Stupid logic. Anyone at a meeting is a drunk like me and nothing to worry about! Anyway, after several weeks I thanked my temporary sponsor and told him it wasn't for me and I wasn't coming back. He wished me well and told me he was worried I could do this on my own. I told him "I'm powerless against the waves, so I will choose to stay out of the ocean."
I found AVRT a couple of months later. Trimpey put words to things I was sort of doing already and helped me codify my thoughts into a system. I've been through numerous business and social events, the Holidays, and a reunion with college roommates that turned into an embarrassing boozefest without a setback, so far.
I'm an asst. coach on my son's little league team. I know nothing about coaching baseball but he doesn't know that. I'm also a booster for my daughter's tennis team and now a Lay Reader at church. My sex drive is back and the wife is happy about that (and so am I!) I'll always feel guilty about the time and opportunities I wasted in a whiskey bottle. All I can do is try my best every day for my family who stood by me and for some reason still love me.
Most importantly:
I will not drink again and I will not change my mind.
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Vlad, I thought it was A great post! Honest, thought full, A plan for moving foreword . Some positive moves toward making things better. ( I epically like the kids pictures thing)! Seeking help can’t hurt either, go with what you’re comfortable with. I like AVRT & use the principals, also use SMART and Rational recovery. These are all good tools; I pick the stuff that works best for me and leave the rest.
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