It's all about me Part 4
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Originally Posted by kzaug2014 
Tod, the internet is scary stuff. Police just arrested a 36yr old man yesterday, who met a 12yr old online, picked her up & brought her to a hotel. Sick peeps!!!
Clean, you are correct. He only has me to complain to. And he's a big baby when it comes to pain or anything that causes him discomfort. Ugh!
Clean, you are correct. He only has me to complain to. And he's a big baby when it comes to pain or anything that causes him discomfort. Ugh!
Did y'all know Judge Judy met her husband in a bar?
Sounds like it's time to cut the cord Kz! I swear if it wasn't for Little Maria? I'd have left with Molly a long time ago! I really need a break from the crap around here! Talking doesn't seem to do any good. Maybe by me leaving will?
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Kz is it a 12 step program? They are heavy on religion but my uncle, who married my aunt later in life and has since passed from cirrhosis (my dad died of cancer and cirrhosis was a million times worse) was sober for many years before he met my aunt but had dedicated his life to AA. He was an atheist through and through but still swore by 12 step. He said you didn't need to believe in God, and that his religion was his meetings. So hopefully Rob will find his peace with the religious tilt and work through it.
I'll write more later - Tod I'm jealous of your roses!! I love roses, my grandma grew the most beautiful tea roses but i didnt inherit her green thumb.
I'll write more later - Tod I'm jealous of your roses!! I love roses, my grandma grew the most beautiful tea roses but i didnt inherit her green thumb.
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I was going to mention that too, Clean. Then Rob called & I forgot lol. That guy you knew before who had syringes loaded w/heroin? I bet the only reason he didn't do them was he completely forgot about them! Lol. 2 things I know about H addicts ( besides lying ) are they're memory is horrible & if there's heroin available to do, they'll do it.
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I think Rob's main problem right now is lack of sleep. He was doing fine until he found out he wouldn't be seeing the Dr. til Mon.
Tod, Rob & I started doing H in May 2014. We had 20 good yrs together before that. I quit H in Aug., so basically I've only been dealing w/an active addict for 8mos. So, I'll be trying to make it work for now.
How long has Jethro been doing those pills again?
Tod, Rob & I started doing H in May 2014. We had 20 good yrs together before that. I quit H in Aug., so basically I've only been dealing w/an active addict for 8mos. So, I'll be trying to make it work for now.
How long has Jethro been doing those pills again?
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Tod I wish it were that simple.
How much longer does he have kz? Is he serious about wanting to leave or just ranting about his situatuon? Was it his choice to go or yours? Just wondering because he might just be complaining for the sake if complaining but yet determined to see this thru. But to tell you the truth I don't think there is one spouse who went away to rehab that didn't try to go home early? Even Blue's husbunny fussed by what I recall? Charley's did come home early. But I think its totally nessesary he stay. At least that's what I would say if it were mine.
How much longer does he have kz? Is he serious about wanting to leave or just ranting about his situatuon? Was it his choice to go or yours? Just wondering because he might just be complaining for the sake if complaining but yet determined to see this thru. But to tell you the truth I don't think there is one spouse who went away to rehab that didn't try to go home early? Even Blue's husbunny fussed by what I recall? Charley's did come home early. But I think its totally nessesary he stay. At least that's what I would say if it were mine.
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My H is the same, Kz. Chronic sleep problems which results in angry, depressive and abusive behavior. I can pretty much see it coming now, on the third night of a lack of sleep I'd better just keep my distance.
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Yes my H came home early and i was not at all pleased. H was at detox but it offered a lot of meetings and counseling and he would have benefited even from two more days which would have been the extent that could have stayed.
If you have any influence over your Rob, I'd suggest you use it to get him to stay. I wish I would have!
If you have any influence over your Rob, I'd suggest you use it to get him to stay. I wish I would have!
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Charley please don't think I'm blaming you for that! I'm not! I just can't recall a single spouse where I read they didnt try to come home early? Not one was like yay...this is fun let me stay longer. Not happening right? Ha!
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Kz I think your rob has a legit complaint! So I think if you just empathize with him and make him to realize you really care and understand. That will be enough to hold him. What do you think? I know a little sympathy goes a long way with mine. If I seem like I don't care when he is stressing then it just makes him worse.
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Clean, I thought it was his idea, but he told me earlier that he only went to make me happy...ugh! Thx for letting me know about the other hubs that didn't exactly like rehab. On his last call to me, he said that hopefully he'll be in a better mood tomorrow ( but I think it'll depend on if he gets any sleep tonight. )
Charlie, it's very hard to deal w/, huh? It runs in Rob's fam...his dad has been to sleep clinics before.
The last time Rob went to detox, he came home & was fine for 5 days. They gave him valium in detox & it took about 2 days for it to wear off & then 3 more...no sleep = very cranky, ornary Rob.
In fact, after the 4th night of no sleep, he went to emergency room. They gave him a shot that was suppose make the restless legs better. It made things worse.
Back to the emergency room again...gave him a shot of benadryl & a shot of adivan. That woulda knocked me for a loop. He was delirious & hallucinating, but not sleeping.
Back to the hospital again. This time I wanted to go ( Rob didn't. ) But idk what the heck to do w/him??? They just made sure he wasn't suicidal & sent us home.
13hrs after all 3shots, he finally passed out.
That was a very high stress day for me ( & ttytt, one of the main reasons I was glad he was leaving for Georgia for 23 days. )
Charlie, it's very hard to deal w/, huh? It runs in Rob's fam...his dad has been to sleep clinics before.
The last time Rob went to detox, he came home & was fine for 5 days. They gave him valium in detox & it took about 2 days for it to wear off & then 3 more...no sleep = very cranky, ornary Rob.
In fact, after the 4th night of no sleep, he went to emergency room. They gave him a shot that was suppose make the restless legs better. It made things worse.
Back to the emergency room again...gave him a shot of benadryl & a shot of adivan. That woulda knocked me for a loop. He was delirious & hallucinating, but not sleeping.
Back to the hospital again. This time I wanted to go ( Rob didn't. ) But idk what the heck to do w/him??? They just made sure he wasn't suicidal & sent us home.
13hrs after all 3shots, he finally passed out.
That was a very high stress day for me ( & ttytt, one of the main reasons I was glad he was leaving for Georgia for 23 days. )
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