hello friends
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Join Date: Aug 2022
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hello friends
hello , i use to be an old member before but for safety reasons i cant say who i am
i have 5 years recovery but my partner who i have been with for over 10+ years is being very controlling due to
past behaviors and he don't trust me
i want to go back to recovery community but he is stopping me he said it made me worse when in fact it didn't
i really want to talk to and be around other people in recovery but at the moment am not allowed to be
i hope it is ok to not say who i am ...
i have 5 years recovery but my partner who i have been with for over 10+ years is being very controlling due to
past behaviors and he don't trust me
i want to go back to recovery community but he is stopping me he said it made me worse when in fact it didn't
i really want to talk to and be around other people in recovery but at the moment am not allowed to be
i hope it is ok to not say who i am ...
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Join Date: Oct 2019
Posts: 744
Dependence on toxic people can be a lot like our addiction to alcohol.
For many of us drinking is a symptom of our alcoholism. We are not alcoholic because we drink. We drink because we are alcoholic. Not everyone, some can just put the plug in the jug but many of need each other to be able to treat our alcoholism. The condition that not only can make us drink, it can make us crazy.
I am not sure if you are one of those of God or higher power people. I am one of those God nuts so you might just ignore my God thoughts and I completely understand. If so I would pray on this. We can't serve two masters. Like the alcohol, if a significant other is getting in the way it may be time to make a change. Probably not now, I think in the immediate future connecting with other alcoholics secretly may just be the only right choice. Down the road though, from the given information it doesn't seem like a healthy situation.
Im not saying it's him or us, not at all. What I mean is if you need to be sober to be right with God and treatment for alcoholism is a prerequisite to stay right with God.... He may be a lot like king alcohol.
For many of us drinking is a symptom of our alcoholism. We are not alcoholic because we drink. We drink because we are alcoholic. Not everyone, some can just put the plug in the jug but many of need each other to be able to treat our alcoholism. The condition that not only can make us drink, it can make us crazy.
I am not sure if you are one of those of God or higher power people. I am one of those God nuts so you might just ignore my God thoughts and I completely understand. If so I would pray on this. We can't serve two masters. Like the alcohol, if a significant other is getting in the way it may be time to make a change. Probably not now, I think in the immediate future connecting with other alcoholics secretly may just be the only right choice. Down the road though, from the given information it doesn't seem like a healthy situation.
Im not saying it's him or us, not at all. What I mean is if you need to be sober to be right with God and treatment for alcoholism is a prerequisite to stay right with God.... He may be a lot like king alcohol.
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This situation sounds unhealthy. Our partners are not meant to control us. There really does seem to be some stuff going on that is highly questionable. I do hope you are safe, have the resources you need, and can find a way to live your life free from another's control.
I am a Child of God
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Join Date: Aug 2022
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thank you all for getting back to me , my partner's mental health isn't so great at the moment
but he has seemed to listened to me now about things and everything is fine
i was an old user as i said before but i cant for the life of me remember my password email and name lol
i hope its OK for me to remain as Lily76
but he has seemed to listened to me now about things and everything is fine
i was an old user as i said before but i cant for the life of me remember my password email and name lol
i hope its OK for me to remain as Lily76
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