I can't be honest about my drinking with my support worker
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Sounds like you're going to need to be honest, Tetrax. I mean, what's the alternative? "Getting away with" being dishonest and continuing to drink aren't likely to get you out of this hole. What happens if you tell the truth? I mean, what are the possibilities, not what does your crystal ball say.
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Originally Posted by Obladi 
Sounds like you're going to need to be honest, Tetrax. I mean, what's the alternative? "Getting away with" being dishonest and continuing to drink aren't likely to get you out of this hole. What happens if you tell the truth? I mean, what are the possibilities, not what does your crystal ball say.
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Originally Posted by Tetrax
Yes but I would wish to do it on my own terms, not because of some lousy rat.
Was it wrong for the other person to say something? Maybe
IMO thats not the issue here. The issue is you are drinking.
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Understood.
Were you anywhere close to doing that, though? For real?
I don't know about you, but sometimes I need to get 'caught' to be forced into taking some action to pull myself up out of the pit. I don't mean to be a Pollyanna about this at all, so please don't take this in the "make lemonade out of lemons way." But I do think it's important to face what you did/are doing and avoid focussing your resentment on the 'rat.' They did the right thing and you know it.
Were you anywhere close to doing that, though? For real?
I don't know about you, but sometimes I need to get 'caught' to be forced into taking some action to pull myself up out of the pit. I don't mean to be a Pollyanna about this at all, so please don't take this in the "make lemonade out of lemons way." But I do think it's important to face what you did/are doing and avoid focussing your resentment on the 'rat.' They did the right thing and you know it.
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If I was in a sober living home in order to try to kick an addiction and to get my life back on track that would mean I had gone pretty far down the rabbit hole and had found myself facing homelessness or death.
If I was sober and I knew someone in the house was drinking or using, I'd absolutely be the rat. My life would depend on it. I'm not ever going to be an enabler for someone else at the cost of my own sobriety or safety. People who are drinking or using are going to cause problems in my safe (sober) home. I would want that person to be out of the house or 100% sober. No grey area here.
If I was sober and I knew someone in the house was drinking or using, I'd absolutely be the rat. My life would depend on it. I'm not ever going to be an enabler for someone else at the cost of my own sobriety or safety. People who are drinking or using are going to cause problems in my safe (sober) home. I would want that person to be out of the house or 100% sober. No grey area here.
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I don't like giveups either Tetrax. She should have spoken to you first, imho.
Doesn't seem you've got any alternative but to be honest Tetrax. It'd be a good thing if it has you put down the booze.
Only part that troubles me is that it might threaten your housing. Does it? I'm hoping that people are given '2nd chances'.
Don't get angry about it Tetrax, get sober.
I'm sorry about the circumstances though.
Doesn't seem you've got any alternative but to be honest Tetrax. It'd be a good thing if it has you put down the booze.
Only part that troubles me is that it might threaten your housing. Does it? I'm hoping that people are given '2nd chances'.
Don't get angry about it Tetrax, get sober.
I'm sorry about the circumstances though.
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I'd go the '2nd chance/renegotiate' option.
Bim makes a good point though tetrax. If it's a sober living house it can be very destabilising if someone else is drinking.
Just don't want you to lose your Housing.
Bim makes a good point though tetrax. If it's a sober living house it can be very destabilising if someone else is drinking.
Just don't want you to lose your Housing.
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There’s no surer way to get kicked out than to lie about your drinking and then get caught in that lie.
Alcohol tests can be pretty sensitive. As can people living in a sober home.
Alcohol tests can be pretty sensitive. As can people living in a sober home.
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Originally Posted by Obladi
There’s no surer way to get kicked out than to lie about your drinking and then get caught in that lie.
Alcohol tests can be pretty sensitive. As can people living in a sober home.
Alcohol tests can be pretty sensitive. As can people living in a sober home.
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Originally Posted by Tetrax
This guy's going the wrong way about it though. I'm quiet as a church mouse at night yet he BLASTS rap music and insults us housemates loudly when he has his mates round, acting all Billy Big Bollocks (even though he moved in a week ago). He's a petulant child, as well as a lousy rat.
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