Day 14 … loving my counselling !
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Day 14 … loving my counselling !
So two weeks today ..no cravings at all but ever vigilant . I think that I explained last week that I’ve sought out help from a specialist alcohol-savvy life coach who started a website (not unlike SR) for women in the UK who have a problematic relationship with alcohol. I has my second individual session with her tonight and she is brilliant ! Has been through addiction herself so knows the lies we tell ourselves (and others) and is showing me a way out of it based on self0-compassion and self-care. I really feel this may help me to kick this toxic habit once and for all ! Yay ! Still got brain fog .
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Great stuff Ican. About to start seeing a psychologist myself. Not for alcohol, though I won't avoid it, but to find ways to better cope with my daughter. Lots of things really. Underpinnings to my drinking. It has been very difficult.
Sardines on toast are a favourite go to for me too. I luv 'em.
Sardines on toast are a favourite go to for me too. I luv 'em.
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Good for you. Yes I have one counsellor to whom I talk about my son (and mention alcohol tangentially) and one where alcohol is central to our discussions and so far it is absolutely fantastic (for me anyway). Good luck - it’s a brave and important step you are taking ! I think it is good to separate the two.
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I found counseling to be very enjoyable until... I had my first big life changing experience from it. That was preceded by a bout of panic as the unknown quantity in my subconscious was knocking on the wall of my conscious mind and getting ready to break free. Why the panic? Well, because it's the unknown, I suppose.
That's why we go to counseling; We want to learn about ourselves. What?!! Learn about ourselves? Yep that's the rub. What we can learn by definition is only what we don't know. And what we don't know is scary. But the only real scary thing about it is that it is unknown, which for some reason scared me a lot.
Oddly, everything I ever learned about me in counseling turned out to be an emotional high once I learned it. I never once had one of those insights where I thought, "Oh heck. Now I really hate myself." Knowledge is not a bad thing. Yet we often run from it at worst, or at best fear it just a little, because living in ignorance has the advantage of being such familiar territory and because it is familiar it is comforting.
That's why we go to counseling; We want to learn about ourselves. What?!! Learn about ourselves? Yep that's the rub. What we can learn by definition is only what we don't know. And what we don't know is scary. But the only real scary thing about it is that it is unknown, which for some reason scared me a lot.
Oddly, everything I ever learned about me in counseling turned out to be an emotional high once I learned it. I never once had one of those insights where I thought, "Oh heck. Now I really hate myself." Knowledge is not a bad thing. Yet we often run from it at worst, or at best fear it just a little, because living in ignorance has the advantage of being such familiar territory and because it is familiar it is comforting.
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