What gets better when you get sober
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What gets better when you get sober
I will have three years sober coming up on June 2. This was my second round of sobriety. In 2009 I was getting a divorce and got a dui, went to rehab and stayed sober for 13 months. Nine years later- enough was enough- rehab again.
What is different this time? #1 is step 1- I finally admitted I was just an alcoholic like everyone else- not different or special just because I’m in A good spot financially and job- I would be living under a bridge alone- it woulda been a matter of time.
I have noticed so many things that are so much better- primarily AA taught be how to quit drinking- now it has taught be how to live.
I don’t get aggravated or let things bother me like I did. I was sick/ hungover all the time- I have not been sick the entire time I have been sober. Sleep- it was a constant pass out- wake up three hours later tossing and turning- I now sleep HARD for 6-8 hours dreaming (good REM sleep). All the BS about friends not wanting to be around- here is a little secret- nobody cares that you don’t drink. I have friends that still drink, but I’m not missing out on anything at all. Many are curious and seem to envy my sobriety. Better relationships with wife and kids. I can actually go out for something in the evening without being dui. I gained 30 pounds that I needed (I was drinking too many meals).
Anyhow- I coild type all night- but literally every single element of my life is 100x better. If you can image things will be better when you get sober- think big of how good it will be- and rest assured it will be even much better.
Put in the effort- it pays off and you will wake up one morning a few month in with the wind in your back and it will be the best thing you have ever done and you will wonder why you didn’t do it sooner!
What is different this time? #1 is step 1- I finally admitted I was just an alcoholic like everyone else- not different or special just because I’m in A good spot financially and job- I would be living under a bridge alone- it woulda been a matter of time.
I have noticed so many things that are so much better- primarily AA taught be how to quit drinking- now it has taught be how to live.
I don’t get aggravated or let things bother me like I did. I was sick/ hungover all the time- I have not been sick the entire time I have been sober. Sleep- it was a constant pass out- wake up three hours later tossing and turning- I now sleep HARD for 6-8 hours dreaming (good REM sleep). All the BS about friends not wanting to be around- here is a little secret- nobody cares that you don’t drink. I have friends that still drink, but I’m not missing out on anything at all. Many are curious and seem to envy my sobriety. Better relationships with wife and kids. I can actually go out for something in the evening without being dui. I gained 30 pounds that I needed (I was drinking too many meals).
Anyhow- I coild type all night- but literally every single element of my life is 100x better. If you can image things will be better when you get sober- think big of how good it will be- and rest assured it will be even much better.
Put in the effort- it pays off and you will wake up one morning a few month in with the wind in your back and it will be the best thing you have ever done and you will wonder why you didn’t do it sooner!
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Join Date: Aug 2017
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I’m happy for you!. Stay focused on your sobriety man! I’m taking mine day by day and I desire just to be at piece again. Dwi’s have been my downfall. Bad decisions I continually make when I’m out drinking. Keep yourself safe!
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Join Date: Jul 2015
Location: Soberville, USA
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It is nice to give the real me a chance to live.
The drug induced me was making a mess of things most of the time.
The real me keeps things in order.
Routine, calm, cool, patient, fun, attentive, diligent etc etc.
My perception is my reality.
As we were designed.
I just woke from a dream I was late for work. I kept trying to check the schedule on my phone.
In my dream I told someone, my phone is acting up, it only does that when I am dreaming. Lol!
Love love love.
Thanks.
The drug induced me was making a mess of things most of the time.
The real me keeps things in order.
Routine, calm, cool, patient, fun, attentive, diligent etc etc.
My perception is my reality.
As we were designed.
I just woke from a dream I was late for work. I kept trying to check the schedule on my phone.
In my dream I told someone, my phone is acting up, it only does that when I am dreaming. Lol!
Love love love.
Thanks.
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Join Date: Nov 2017
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Congratulations🥳🥳🥳
What got better for me, I'm no particular order:
Sleep, relationships, my mothering skills, my internal organs especially my brain, my morals, my health, my fitness levels, my diet (eventually!) , my work life, self care, spending money, my.patience, tolerance and compassion, my temper, my self respect and my dignity.
I don't think there is one thing that has not improved since I stopped drinking alcohol.
I love being sober and wouldnt change it for the world!
What got better for me, I'm no particular order:
Sleep, relationships, my mothering skills, my internal organs especially my brain, my morals, my health, my fitness levels, my diet (eventually!) , my work life, self care, spending money, my.patience, tolerance and compassion, my temper, my self respect and my dignity.
I don't think there is one thing that has not improved since I stopped drinking alcohol.
I love being sober and wouldnt change it for the world!
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,784
Congrats on three years sober! 
My life is so much better sober.
I don't wake up feeling awful and hating myself anymore. I don't constantly feel despair and doom. I take much better care of myself and my dog and cats. And I'm ready for any occurrence as I'm always clear headed.
Yes, sober is a thousand times better. My worst day sober is better than my best day drunk.
My life is so much better sober.
I don't wake up feeling awful and hating myself anymore. I don't constantly feel despair and doom. I take much better care of myself and my dog and cats. And I'm ready for any occurrence as I'm always clear headed. Yes, sober is a thousand times better.
My worst day sober is better than my best day drunk. 
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Join Date: Dec 2015
Location: NSW - Australia
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Everything is better, but since I've been sober have not lost my wallet, or had to cancel, then replace credit cards, etc. Such a drag, particularly with a hangover. Sometimes too sick to even care.
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Thank you for the positive post.
Yes, life does get better in every way imaginable when sober. If we put in the work to better in our lives we really can create a life that is full and rewarding. Raising our life condition is so important. Our thoughts play a huge role in our reality.
Keep on moving forward! Thank you for being here.
Yes, life does get better in every way imaginable when sober. If we put in the work to better in our lives we really can create a life that is full and rewarding. Raising our life condition is so important. Our thoughts play a huge role in our reality.
Keep on moving forward! Thank you for being here.
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Join Date: Aug 2016
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Today:
The bad things are tolerable.
The good things are really good.
In contrast to my drinking days:
The bad things were the end of the world.
The good things were tolerable.
There was no really good when I was drinking. And there was rarely any good at all. Just a constant feeling of impending doom.
The bad things are tolerable.
The good things are really good.
In contrast to my drinking days:
The bad things were the end of the world.
The good things were tolerable.
There was no really good when I was drinking. And there was rarely any good at all. Just a constant feeling of impending doom.
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