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10 days
Feeling positive although now and again drink has been coming into my mind, so I’ve been watching interventions on Netflix which are so awful, today I will be busy in the house sorting clothes out 👍
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Distraction isn’t recovery Mummy. To really beat this thing once and for all, you really do need a recovery strategy that goes deeper and gives you focused actions you can take to deal with drinking urges in a structured way with the inevitable return of the cravings.
What is different in your revised sobriety plan now compared to last time? How have you raised the bar for yourself based on what you learned from your last relapse?
If you keep repeating what didn’t work, how can your outcome be different?
These were the hard questions I had to ask myself when I would relapse after a “good” sober period. Cravings or stress would hit me, and I would slide into that first drink almost without realizing it.
It was only when I did what I suggest above that I started getting awareness earlier when AV was setting me up to drink, and I had a serious of responses I planned in advance to de escalate the moment and get back in control.
I think that would really help you break your pattern of binge-relapse if you would give it a chance.
Wishing you every success-I also was a binge drinker and I know how irresistible the desire to drink can be even when life seems to be rolling along. You can do it but it’s a lot of work and self-honesty upfront to succeed, or it was for me at any rate. . .
What is different in your revised sobriety plan now compared to last time? How have you raised the bar for yourself based on what you learned from your last relapse?
If you keep repeating what didn’t work, how can your outcome be different?
These were the hard questions I had to ask myself when I would relapse after a “good” sober period. Cravings or stress would hit me, and I would slide into that first drink almost without realizing it.
It was only when I did what I suggest above that I started getting awareness earlier when AV was setting me up to drink, and I had a serious of responses I planned in advance to de escalate the moment and get back in control.
I think that would really help you break your pattern of binge-relapse if you would give it a chance.
Wishing you every success-I also was a binge drinker and I know how irresistible the desire to drink can be even when life seems to be rolling along. You can do it but it’s a lot of work and self-honesty upfront to succeed, or it was for me at any rate. . .
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^ agree 100%
Stopping drinking is a lifestyle change. I know it’s not easy, but quitting without changing anything else is impossible. Mto2, I don’t know when you drank, e.g. after the kids go to bed, but you need to be doing something else at that time. If your husband drinks, he has to cut down or stop.
Stopping drinking is a lifestyle change. I know it’s not easy, but quitting without changing anything else is impossible. Mto2, I don’t know when you drank, e.g. after the kids go to bed, but you need to be doing something else at that time. If your husband drinks, he has to cut down or stop.
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Glad to see you're doing well, Mummy. I watched the intervention series also. I couldn't bring myself to watch it when I was drinking but it certainly worked as a deterrent when I got sober. I still watch stuff like that on youtube....check out the soft white underbelly series. Not for everyone but for me, each episode helps me feel gratitude for my sobriety and also empathy for those less fortunate.
Keep it going!
Keep it going!
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