My mental health is declining...
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In my current state I have only left the house once. Christmas day. Family not very happy as I beat an ultra drunk family member within an inch of hi life. 100 stitches to the face and broken jaw. He deserved all of it after 5 stern warnings.
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I wouldn't be too happy about someone battering a friend to within an inch of her life either. That was horrible. What is your point?
What are you taking about. "Worth it". ?
Worth it for whom?
You? or them?
You seem to have forgotten about them.
What are you taking about. "Worth it". ?
Worth it for whom?
You? or them?
You seem to have forgotten about them.
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I am a tablet so forgive me for brevity. I am not first person to beat this guys ass. Furthermore he has overcharged us to the tune of 60 thousand dollars. And now he is looking at another bite of the apple. The very house we paid him to. Build he is living in. And now he claims it needs updates. But that was not the reason I dealt with him. It was his drunkenness. This guy is my brother in law.
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Not good Jeff. Not good at all.
As it has been stated many times before sobriety brings out the best in us and helps us to address other issues in our lives that need working on.
You have mentioned violence many times- but always related to drinking periods. When you were sober you never once (that I recall or saw) mentioned violence or beating anyone. I don't think that is a coincidence.
I am not a violent person but have my own issues that really seem to disappear when sober. When sober I am a calm, classy, loyal woman. When drinking I have been promiscuous- going on tinder to look for random hookups, and other, even worse things. But amazingly, and fortunately, when I am not drinking this never, ever happens or even occurs to me to do. It is not like I am fighting against urges to not do those things, they just aren't there.
I say this to point out that while sober you didn't seem to fight those violent urges so much. I think i remember you mentioning difficult relations with your family, but you never came across as violent or wanting to do physical harm to anyone. It just wasn't a part of you like it is a part of you when you are drinking.
As it has been stated many times before sobriety brings out the best in us and helps us to address other issues in our lives that need working on.
You have mentioned violence many times- but always related to drinking periods. When you were sober you never once (that I recall or saw) mentioned violence or beating anyone. I don't think that is a coincidence.
I am not a violent person but have my own issues that really seem to disappear when sober. When sober I am a calm, classy, loyal woman. When drinking I have been promiscuous- going on tinder to look for random hookups, and other, even worse things. But amazingly, and fortunately, when I am not drinking this never, ever happens or even occurs to me to do. It is not like I am fighting against urges to not do those things, they just aren't there.
I say this to point out that while sober you didn't seem to fight those violent urges so much. I think i remember you mentioning difficult relations with your family, but you never came across as violent or wanting to do physical harm to anyone. It just wasn't a part of you like it is a part of you when you are drinking.
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Originally Posted by thomas11 
I am a tablet so forgive me for brevity. I am not first person to beat this guys ass. Furthermore he has overcharged us to the tune of 60 thousand dollars. And now he is looking at another bite of the apple. The very house we paid him to. Build he is living in. And now he claims it needs updates. But that was not the reason I dealt with him. It was his drunkenness. This guy is my brother in law.
It sounds like you had a good legal case against him if he did in fact screw you out of money. But with this recent situation of beating him up it is now YOU that could be facing legal action.
I really hope you get into therapy soon. And I also really hope that you don't go in expecting immediate results. It sounds as though you have a lot of pain and anger that needs unraveling.
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Originally Posted by thomas11
We have some rentals in Los Angeles andourownhouse. Visiting family and making sure renters are being good.
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No, noone deserves that.
I'm really worried for you Jeff
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I'm really worried for you Jeff
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You've got legal options Jeff. Use them.
If the injuries you describe are an accurate description of what you did to him you'll finish up in gaol. And then he'll sue you for damages.
And I thought you were 'on side'. To beat a man for his drunkenness?
I can't understand why your not in gaol already. Maybe you got bailed? Idk
I wouldn't take this path Jeff it has a dead end. Figuratively speaking.
If the injuries you describe are an accurate description of what you did to him you'll finish up in gaol. And then he'll sue you for damages.
And I thought you were 'on side'. To beat a man for his drunkenness?
I can't understand why your not in gaol already. Maybe you got bailed? Idk
I wouldn't take this path Jeff it has a dead end. Figuratively speaking.
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You’ve been here before Jeff. And you ended up with 2 broken legs and losing your business that time. Even if you aren’t drinking , the behavior is the same. I hope you get some help before you end up ruining other people’s lives besides your own.
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