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Welcome, Jessielynn. I’ve started posting to this site less than a week ago, although I’ve been reading threads for several years, and becoming part of the community has already had a positive impact on me and given me strength to focus on healing myself. I am sorry for your losses, and happy to hear that you aren’t going to let yourself break down because of them. You can do this!
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Originally Posted by DriGuy 
Welcome. Your post seemed to give me a better picture of what alcohol can do to a family... what an alcoholic can do to a family. I usually think in terms of what alcohol does to a person, and while I know it affects others, my focus has always been what it does to me.
I kept asking myself, while reading your post, "Why would she do that to her family?" It's a stupid thing to ask because I know the answer. You are an alcoholic and alcohol is in control of your life. You, not so much. It takes a toll on you and those around you.
I hope you find what it takes to get alcohol out of your life, not just for your family, but for yourself, probably mostly for yourself. The family can then sort itself out without that intrusion.
I kept asking myself, while reading your post, "Why would she do that to her family?" It's a stupid thing to ask because I know the answer. You are an alcoholic and alcohol is in control of your life. You, not so much. It takes a toll on you and those around you.
I hope you find what it takes to get alcohol out of your life, not just for your family, but for yourself, probably mostly for yourself. The family can then sort itself out without that intrusion.
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Originally Posted by Libby06
Hi Jessie, I am sorry to hear of your losses. Losing our mom is really a tough one.
Your post hit closer to home than usual. I have been where you are at. Especially the morning drinking to escape the day. I was doing it every day after swearing off. Cant lie, it helped the first hour or so, and then the remorse moved in, that led to a blackout mess mid day. It was a vicious cycle. I knew I couldn't keep on like that, but knew of no way to get off the nightmare ride.
I too dumped it out. Sometimes for me, sometimes for others. It didnt work, but little did I know..it was getting me closer to quitting. It was the beginning of some action, any action. That is what you need...action.
You mentioned an AA meeting. I would strongly suggest that. Thats what I did, and I cant tell you how much it helped. I needed to be around people who understood and could tell me exactly how they stopped. I did what they did and have been sober for a while.
Make no mistake, if you keep going the way you are, the chance of losing your family is quite real. Alcohol doesnt care what it takes. It wants to take everything from you. Please dont let it. You can get well, I promise. You just have to take some action, and be willing to do something different.
Stay close to SR and check out a meeting, it certainly cant hurt. Wishing you well.
Your post hit closer to home than usual. I have been where you are at. Especially the morning drinking to escape the day. I was doing it every day after swearing off. Cant lie, it helped the first hour or so, and then the remorse moved in, that led to a blackout mess mid day. It was a vicious cycle. I knew I couldn't keep on like that, but knew of no way to get off the nightmare ride.
I too dumped it out. Sometimes for me, sometimes for others. It didnt work, but little did I know..it was getting me closer to quitting. It was the beginning of some action, any action. That is what you need...action.
You mentioned an AA meeting. I would strongly suggest that. Thats what I did, and I cant tell you how much it helped. I needed to be around people who understood and could tell me exactly how they stopped. I did what they did and have been sober for a while.
Make no mistake, if you keep going the way you are, the chance of losing your family is quite real. Alcohol doesnt care what it takes. It wants to take everything from you. Please dont let it. You can get well, I promise. You just have to take some action, and be willing to do something different.
Stay close to SR and check out a meeting, it certainly cant hurt. Wishing you well.
Thank you
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