Staying Strong
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Staying Strong
So Nan passed this morning after a week of her holding on for dear life. They say Sunday is the day of rest and she was a regular church goer. Peace for the family knowing she isn't suffering any longer. I went to an AA meeting this morning. This was my first ever AA meeting as the first one I went to was Narcotics Anonymous, although I was only there to talk about alcohol addiction. I found it very helpful and took a lot from the stories people shared.
I have a funeral tomorrow. It will be very hard for the family as the death was the result of a suicide. So although death is very prevalent in my life right now I feel sobriety is helping me focus on life. I'm so grateful I've been able to give my full sober support to everyone involved in these events. Stay strong everyone.
I have a funeral tomorrow. It will be very hard for the family as the death was the result of a suicide. So although death is very prevalent in my life right now I feel sobriety is helping me focus on life. I'm so grateful I've been able to give my full sober support to everyone involved in these events. Stay strong everyone.
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Exactly it feels so good to be able to be "present" when other people are suffering...and also not turning the events into "all about me"....My Nan passed away so therefore I should drink!
No...your Nan passed and therefore you should feel blessed that you have been sober her last days and "available" mentally...for everyone else and yourself...
Your doing awesome....and it feels really good...I know....
No...your Nan passed and therefore you should feel blessed that you have been sober her last days and "available" mentally...for everyone else and yourself...
Your doing awesome....and it feels really good...I know....
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You're doing good, and I'm sorry to hear about Nan. Getting drunk seems like a horrible way to deal with a funeral. As a kid, I remember people drinking after the first funeral I ever went to. My thought then was, "What the Hell are these people doing?" I feel the same way today. I mean getting drunk after a funeral? That's a strange thing to do, even for normies.
They often say funerals are for people to pay their last respects. I supposed that's true for outsiders, but for family, I see the purpose as allowing people to fully embrace their grief. Granted this my my own personal idiosyncrasy, but if I'm right, how much sense does it make to fully embrace your grief at a funeral and then go home and try to bury it in alcohol? I could never understand this, even when I was drinking.
They often say funerals are for people to pay their last respects. I supposed that's true for outsiders, but for family, I see the purpose as allowing people to fully embrace their grief. Granted this my my own personal idiosyncrasy, but if I'm right, how much sense does it make to fully embrace your grief at a funeral and then go home and try to bury it in alcohol? I could never understand this, even when I was drinking.
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