Don’t know if I should even post
Exactly that. Feel like I have no friends here either. Most will go why did she do it again then back off. Don’t blame not body really I mean what does it take. Nothing seems to sink in with me even the horrible consequenses. Ashamed to say I drank. Pathetic I know. Alcoholism is crap
I think you are being unnecessarily hard on yourself. I'd bet that everyone here has struggled where you are now. Don't hate yourself. No one here hates you. You wasting some perfectly good hate. OK, that last thing was me being silly. I thought maybe it would cheer you up.
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Thabks driguy relapsing makes me feel so awful about myself that’s the insanity I know this yet I still try again. I do hate myself right now iv had so many chances and bad consequenses. Struggle to find self forgiveness and self love tbh
So I can't fault you for self hatred. I've been there, and I think most of us have. Of course, this doesn't help much right now. But I can tell you that committing myself to abstinence for the rest of my life was what got me over the hump. That meant that I wasn't going to be experimenting after a year to see if I could drink reasonably. And you need to accept that this is the way it has to be. When you get to that point, things will start to improve.
You will still have battles to fight, and problems to solve, but without alcohol, the problems become smaller and the battles become easier. And the big one, those awful cravings, will diminish and eventually go away.
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I believe when you're truly ready, you'll make that call instead of avoid it. (or come online or whatever)
seize sobriety with enthusiasm and vigor.
remember when the soccer team got stuck in the cave in thailand? for 18 days? and then came the RESCUE?
many of the boys and their coach could not swim. the rescue divers had to teach them to swim, them put them in diving gear and start the 8 hour journey to the surface and freedom.
do you know how many resisted and refused to seize the opportunity to seek freedom from their captivity and have the chance to live?
none.
recovery offers the same path out. don't resist. listen to those who will teach you how to "swim" - listen to the instructions - don the safety garb provided, and get out of the cave. and never look back. embrace the help, be grateful for the help. and follow the lead rope OUT.
remember when the soccer team got stuck in the cave in thailand? for 18 days? and then came the RESCUE?
many of the boys and their coach could not swim. the rescue divers had to teach them to swim, them put them in diving gear and start the 8 hour journey to the surface and freedom.
do you know how many resisted and refused to seize the opportunity to seek freedom from their captivity and have the chance to live?
none.
recovery offers the same path out. don't resist. listen to those who will teach you how to "swim" - listen to the instructions - don the safety garb provided, and get out of the cave. and never look back. embrace the help, be grateful for the help. and follow the lead rope OUT.
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Join Date: Jan 2017
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Thank you everybody I hope this is my time. I know that drinking makes me feel awful and causes suffering and pain to me. That really has to sink in. No just one last time etc etc. I’m just not changing just going round in circles. Day 3 done again
Day 3 for me too, Eve. It's the hardest thing I have even done. Really working on not hating myself, even though that thought swarms over me at times. I'm here with you. Thank you for your posts.
Hi Eve, I'm no stranger to this forum, believe me. I've had more Day 1's than I can remember. However, I do use a couple techniques that help.
The acronym H.A.L.T is a self care tool that I use. Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired. When I'm feeling the voice or urge I try to remember to ask myself these questions and address them. It's not as simple as that, but some web surfing will explain it better than I can.
I also remember folks here said to "play the tape forward". Stop and acknowledge how you will feel after indulging and how it will affect your life. I play the tape forward as much as I can here recently as a reminder that it can easily be a circle of doom for me.
I also envision the cravings as waves and I'm on the surfboard riding them. They will come on strong, but that wave eventually dies down to a calm. It's only a few victories for me one at a time, but I have to cling to something.
Oh, and meetings - I chose a particular style of meetings but to each his own. Just know that the support here has no end, and that I can promise. I speak from experience.
The acronym H.A.L.T is a self care tool that I use. Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired. When I'm feeling the voice or urge I try to remember to ask myself these questions and address them. It's not as simple as that, but some web surfing will explain it better than I can.
I also remember folks here said to "play the tape forward". Stop and acknowledge how you will feel after indulging and how it will affect your life. I play the tape forward as much as I can here recently as a reminder that it can easily be a circle of doom for me.
I also envision the cravings as waves and I'm on the surfboard riding them. They will come on strong, but that wave eventually dies down to a calm. It's only a few victories for me one at a time, but I have to cling to something.
Oh, and meetings - I chose a particular style of meetings but to each his own. Just know that the support here has no end, and that I can promise. I speak from experience.
I hope this is my time.
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