Don’t know if I should even post
Sick n tired
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Join Date: Jan 2017
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Don’t know if I should even post
Exactly that. Feel like I have no friends here either. Most will go why did she do it again then back off. Don’t blame not body really I mean what does it take. Nothing seems to sink in with me even the horrible consequenses. Ashamed to say I drank. Pathetic I know. Alcoholism is crap
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
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Hi Eve
I think most of us remember how hard it was to stop - I've never known anyone here not to find support if they were genuinely trying to stay sober
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I think we have to get a point where we work harder at satying sober than getting drunk.
Maybe it's time to accept that whatever you're doing to stay sober isn't enough?
can you think of other things you might try?
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I think most of us remember how hard it was to stop - I've never known anyone here not to find support if they were genuinely trying to stay sober
.I think we have to get a point where we work harder at satying sober than getting drunk.
Maybe it's time to accept that whatever you're doing to stay sober isn't enough?
can you think of other things you might try?
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Join Date: Jun 2013
Location: Atlanta
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I'll be your friend, if you'll have me.
It took me ten years of trying to quit drinking. No kidding, that long.
I finally tried AA and coming here. Still drank but it wasn't the same. Here were all these people successfully quitting drinking and there was me, drunk again.
It finally did sink in, though. And I managed to stop drinking ten and a half years ago.
Just don't give up. That's two things I never did- lose hope or give up trying.
If I hadn't done those things, I would no doubt I'd be dead.
But I ramble. This is about you. I care about you, and you can quit drinking.
Do whatever it takes. Go to any length necessary, if you're serious about quitting. I know I had to get serious, and I was a bad drunk.
Best to you, my friend.
It took me ten years of trying to quit drinking. No kidding, that long.
I finally tried AA and coming here. Still drank but it wasn't the same. Here were all these people successfully quitting drinking and there was me, drunk again.
It finally did sink in, though. And I managed to stop drinking ten and a half years ago.
Just don't give up. That's two things I never did- lose hope or give up trying.
If I hadn't done those things, I would no doubt I'd be dead.
But I ramble. This is about you. I care about you, and you can quit drinking.
Do whatever it takes. Go to any length necessary, if you're serious about quitting. I know I had to get serious, and I was a bad drunk.
Best to you, my friend.
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Join Date: Jun 2019
Posts: 1,614
Hello. And hey so you drank....we get it. Dont trip. We aint hatin . you came here thats good I'll be your friend . I know the struggle feel me. Got tired of the vicious cycle over and over again. My body was telling . dude I cant take much more of this. And bam here I am 76 days under my belt . so yes this can be done. Keep coming back
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Join Date: Apr 2012
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Although I'd given up for a week or 2 before I joined, it took me a long time to get to that point.
This is what worked for me. You might find something useful:
1. I read up on the stages of alcoholism. You can Google it, and it's not pretty.
2. I spoke to my doctor about it. It didn't work straight away, but it was great to check in after I'd given up, and have him praise me!
3. I began to see it affecting my weight and friendships.
4. There was an ad on telly with a professor saying that drinking above the limit was as bad as smoking for cancer risk. I've always been judgemental of smokers so I gave up to prove I could do it.
5. A couple of drinkers I knew died of throat cancer - a horrible way to die.
All this added up over time until I found the will to quit. It wasn't hard once I'd made up my mind, and I didn't relapse because it was such a relief not to worry about it any more.
This is what worked for me. You might find something useful:
1. I read up on the stages of alcoholism. You can Google it, and it's not pretty.
2. I spoke to my doctor about it. It didn't work straight away, but it was great to check in after I'd given up, and have him praise me!
3. I began to see it affecting my weight and friendships.
4. There was an ad on telly with a professor saying that drinking above the limit was as bad as smoking for cancer risk. I've always been judgemental of smokers so I gave up to prove I could do it.
5. A couple of drinkers I knew died of throat cancer - a horrible way to die.
All this added up over time until I found the will to quit. It wasn't hard once I'd made up my mind, and I didn't relapse because it was such a relief not to worry about it any more.
Sick n tired
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Join Date: Jan 2017
Posts: 509
Thank you all. I dranki just don’t want this iv had so many day ones it’s laughable. Iv has bad consequenses. It isn’t relaxing it isn’t fun I drank cos I couldn’t bear the craving any longer. Day one again god I hate myself
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Join Date: Feb 2018
Location: Stockport/Greater Manchester/Cheshire
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I battled with the booze for years.
Glad to say I got there in the end.
So will you with the right plan, support and routine.
Nobody dislikes you or thinks bad of you here. It’s the beast we’re all fighting together. Safety in numbers I say.
Stay around the good influence of SR and it will rub off.
Don’t hate yourself. Rule no.1
Like yourself and it’s harder to hurt yourself.
‘Together we stand ‘
Glad to say I got there in the end.
So will you with the right plan, support and routine.
Nobody dislikes you or thinks bad of you here. It’s the beast we’re all fighting together. Safety in numbers I say.
Stay around the good influence of SR and it will rub off.
Don’t hate yourself. Rule no.1
Like yourself and it’s harder to hurt yourself.
‘Together we stand ‘
saoutchik
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: London
Posts: 16,200
Hi eve, I had hundreds of Day 1's (literally) before something stuck. I couldn't beat the evening cravings with willpower, desperation forced be to work out a method to avoid them basically by sleeping through them which in turn ment getting up before dawn.
Keep analysing your pattern of drinking and try to find a way to mitigate the worst of the cravings. Displacement activities are not very sophisticated but they do work. Hang in there.
Keep analysing your pattern of drinking and try to find a way to mitigate the worst of the cravings. Displacement activities are not very sophisticated but they do work. Hang in there.
Sick n tired
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Join Date: Jan 2017
Posts: 509
That’s it dee I’m obviously not doing enough. It’s v difficult for me to get to meetings as I have no childcare or support were I live. I need to try something I can do from home SR helps me a lot but I don’t feel as if I’m really connecting with anybody here at times
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
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but I don’t feel as if I’m really connecting with anybody here at times
Just consider the possibility that what you're feeling may not be the same as the reality?
Maybe you should join the Class of July support thread?
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-part-2-a.html
They're a great bunch of people
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