What do I do when the urge comes back?
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Don't give up on the idea of a sponser. When you find the right one, its a.great tool and great help. My first sponser I just asked without putting much thought into, and it was not the right fit for sobriety. The one I have had for a while now, how helped so much! So please think about giving it another chance
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Originally Posted by braebear 
Oh Press....I'm soooo with you! Woke up today, day 4, with the WORST urge to drink. My mind is racing, and desperately trying to punch that voice in the face. I'm just going minute by minute right now
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Originally Posted by LiveLikeGold6
Sorry that sponsor berated you. As everyone has said, and i also can attest to, post here as much, as often as you like or can. In person meetings are great for me and im coming to terms with the fact that people in AA can be very hit or miss, but the book/the spiritual component is central and to be taken in. I learned of AA’s 3 M’s today: Meetings, Meditation, and Masturbate lol. Good for you for wanting to be proactive though, it’s great to see you’re committed to your sobriety!
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Originally Posted by tomsteve
truly sorry your previous sponsor doesnt understand alcoholism or the program. no where in the bb does is say we will never again think about drinking. in fact, quite the contrary-it tells us the thought can pop back up:
We will seldom be interested in liquor. If tempted, we recoil from it as from a hot flame. We react sanely and normally, and we will find that this has happened automatically. We will see that our new attitude toward liquor has been given us without any thought or effort on our part. It just comes!
so whats the sane and normal reaction? welp, for me its accepting the thought for what it is- a thought that i best not entertain for too long.
ive had the though of an ice cold beer pop up from time to time-give me a warm summer day and a lawn mower and it usually comes to mind. i laugh at it knowing 1 ice cold beer comes home with at least 11 others,i dont wanna go back there,then turn my attention to something more useful.
early on in recovery i did a LOT of praying, reading the big book,and working the steps.
We will seldom be interested in liquor. If tempted, we recoil from it as from a hot flame. We react sanely and normally, and we will find that this has happened automatically. We will see that our new attitude toward liquor has been given us without any thought or effort on our part. It just comes!
so whats the sane and normal reaction? welp, for me its accepting the thought for what it is- a thought that i best not entertain for too long.
ive had the though of an ice cold beer pop up from time to time-give me a warm summer day and a lawn mower and it usually comes to mind. i laugh at it knowing 1 ice cold beer comes home with at least 11 others,i dont wanna go back there,then turn my attention to something more useful.
early on in recovery i did a LOT of praying, reading the big book,and working the steps.
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Originally Posted by Zucc36
Don't give up on the idea of a sponser. When you find the right one, its a.great tool and great help. My first sponser I just asked without putting much thought into, and it was not the right fit for sobriety. The one I have had for a while now, how helped so much! So please think about giving it another chance
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[QUOTE=mariposa;7221764]
so appreciate all this. You. Everyone here. I bought a water color set for $5. I'm kinda maybe just a little excited. Not really but maybe a little.
Do anything else but drink. Eat something, drink a tea, a coffee, paint your nails, find something on TV, draw, clean the house, write down reasons you quit, write down goals, paint a wall, read a book, and post and read here. I feel this site is very positive and we understand wanting to drink but how much it destroys our lives.
[/QUOTEso appreciate all this. You. Everyone here. I bought a water color set for $5. I'm kinda maybe just a little excited. Not really but maybe a little.
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That's the perfect to do list and you did it!! You might have read this from me before but early on my lists were short and basic - like 1 eat twice 2 make the bed 3 shower. They kept growing and it's cool when random things like making pancakes (sober) are on it!!!
You can do this. What's up for today?
You can do this. What's up for today?
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