Big life changes in early sobriety - sometimes life chooses for you
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Big life changes in early sobriety - sometimes life chooses for you
I'm almost 5 months sober for the first time in my life since I started drinking 20+ years ago. In the past year and a half I've gotten married and had a baby. Last week I gave notice to my firm that I am starting a partnership with a long time colleague at the end of the month. I'm about to head out on my own, hang my own shingle etc. I moved my family into a new apartment in a new neighborhood a month ago. My beautiful baby daughter is going to be 4 months old in a week.
Things are good and I feel lucky. I also feel like I've made my own luck by getting sober. I post this not to argue with those who hew to the adage that one shouldn't take on life changes in early sobriety. Instead I'm just posting as someone who, at 41 years old, has had life itself make some decisions about what was coming my way.
Life doesn't wait for us to get sober. In fact life usually passes us by as we waste away our time, opportunities and talents. And when we get sober, life doesn't stop either.
I could not and would not have dealt properly with the chances and challenges that my life is presenting me with these days if I was still the drunk I was only half a year ago. But I'm sober so I have the clarity, the calm, the focus and the energy to work with and through my life now.
Life was never waiting for me to get my s--t together. But I can say, finally, that I'm not waiting anymore either.
Things are good and I feel lucky. I also feel like I've made my own luck by getting sober. I post this not to argue with those who hew to the adage that one shouldn't take on life changes in early sobriety. Instead I'm just posting as someone who, at 41 years old, has had life itself make some decisions about what was coming my way.
Life doesn't wait for us to get sober. In fact life usually passes us by as we waste away our time, opportunities and talents. And when we get sober, life doesn't stop either.
I could not and would not have dealt properly with the chances and challenges that my life is presenting me with these days if I was still the drunk I was only half a year ago. But I'm sober so I have the clarity, the calm, the focus and the energy to work with and through my life now.
Life was never waiting for me to get my s--t together. But I can say, finally, that I'm not waiting anymore either.
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Originally Posted by lessgravity 
I'm almost 5 months sober for the first time in my life since I started drinking 20+ years ago. In the past year and a half I've gotten married and had a baby. Last week I gave notice to my firm that I am starting a partnership with a long time colleague at the end of the month. I'm about to head out on my own, hang my own shingle etc. I moved my family into a new apartment in a new neighborhood a month ago. My beautiful baby daughter is going to be 4 months old in a week.
Things are good and I feel lucky. I also feel like I've made my own luck by getting sober. I post this not to argue with those who hew to the adage that one shouldn't take on life changes in early sobriety. Instead I'm just posting as someone who, at 41 years old, has had life itself make some decisions about what was coming my way.
Life doesn't wait for us to get sober. In fact life usually passes us by as we waste away our time, opportunities and talents. And when we get sober, life doesn't stop either.
I could not and would not have dealt properly with the chances and challenges that my life is presenting me with these days if I was still the drunk I was only half a year ago. But I'm sober so I have the clarity, the calm, the focus and the energy to work with and through my life now.
Life was never waiting for me to get my s--t together. But I can say, finally, that I'm not waiting anymore either.
Things are good and I feel lucky. I also feel like I've made my own luck by getting sober. I post this not to argue with those who hew to the adage that one shouldn't take on life changes in early sobriety. Instead I'm just posting as someone who, at 41 years old, has had life itself make some decisions about what was coming my way.
Life doesn't wait for us to get sober. In fact life usually passes us by as we waste away our time, opportunities and talents. And when we get sober, life doesn't stop either.
I could not and would not have dealt properly with the chances and challenges that my life is presenting me with these days if I was still the drunk I was only half a year ago. But I'm sober so I have the clarity, the calm, the focus and the energy to work with and through my life now.
Life was never waiting for me to get my s--t together. But I can say, finally, that I'm not waiting anymore either.
I am sitting right now in a situation with a bevy of opportunity ahead of me. I know the only way I can take advantage of them is to be sober.
Again, so happy for you.
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Originally Posted by Michael2018
Well done LG!
Do you think there will be any tension with your partner if you are not drinking (I know some see alcohol as an important part of 'socialising' to build up customers for a new firm).
Do you think there will be any tension with your partner if you are not drinking (I know some see alcohol as an important part of 'socialising' to build up customers for a new firm).
All that said I am better able to TCB in all facets as a sober partner than a drunk one. I'm firm enough in my sobriety that the only tension might be in that my partner sees the dividends earned by staying sober.
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Aw I bet your little girl is such a cutie....don't even have to see a pic. I just see my daughters face at 4 months......so sweet. And now she's smokin hot at 17! Help....
Good luck with the new venture. How exciting.
Good luck with the new venture. How exciting.
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