Ultimatum
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Originally Posted by Sprtslife 
Thanks Eddie.
Is this to say that if one is not religious or spiritual; they cannot become sober with AA as a benefit? I heard there are some holistic approaches that one can implement to help maintain their sobriety. Such as meditation for example. Is this true?
Is this to say that if one is not religious or spiritual; they cannot become sober with AA as a benefit? I heard there are some holistic approaches that one can implement to help maintain their sobriety. Such as meditation for example. Is this true?
There are many recovery programs out there. Whatever keeps you sober and happy is the best one. Good luck buddy
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Originally Posted by Sprtslife
Thanks Eddie.
Is this to say that if one is not religious or spiritual; they cannot become sober with AA as a benefit? I heard there are some holistic approaches that one can implement to help maintain their sobriety. Such as meditation for example. Is this true?
Is this to say that if one is not religious or spiritual; they cannot become sober with AA as a benefit? I heard there are some holistic approaches that one can implement to help maintain their sobriety. Such as meditation for example. Is this true?
I consider meditation spiritual, and many people in recovery practice it as part of their routine. There are lots of ways to approach sobriety, but for sure, for most people it's quite a bit more work than simply putting the plug in the jug and living happily ever after. These are the things that a reputable rehab facility will teach you while you are in their care. Find what works for you... one size does not fit all.
Stay open minded, and you may well look back at this and see it as a major inflection point in your life. Good luck!
Ed
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Originally Posted by Sprtslife
Hopefully this reaches everyone as good news. First of all in regards to my wife and marriage. I love my wife, she is bright, funny, witty and and excellent mother along with a pleathera of other assets.
We had a great talk this morning. I was never in denial of my drinking; I was in denial of how it was hurting my wife. She wasn't good at opening up to me about this until the ultimatum last week. She said it has nothing to do with how well I provide, or that I'm a great husband. She said i am. She told me I just feel as though you aren't present when you drink emotionally.
That's all I had to hear. The last thing I want to do is hurt my wife. So, soft drinks and keep my family, or drink alcohol and lose them. I'm looking forward to rehab and getting well. I've decided to do the right thing. Thank you to everyone who posted. All comments were taken seriously by me.
We had a great talk this morning. I was never in denial of my drinking; I was in denial of how it was hurting my wife. She wasn't good at opening up to me about this until the ultimatum last week. She said it has nothing to do with how well I provide, or that I'm a great husband. She said i am. She told me I just feel as though you aren't present when you drink emotionally.
That's all I had to hear. The last thing I want to do is hurt my wife. So, soft drinks and keep my family, or drink alcohol and lose them. I'm looking forward to rehab and getting well. I've decided to do the right thing. Thank you to everyone who posted. All comments were taken seriously by me.
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Sports,
Been off the thread for a while and glad things have improved. I replied early on, when you first posted. I got an ultimatum too.
I'm not a fan of the "higher power" in AA either. A friend who's an athiest going to AA feels there's a lot of alternative to what Higher Power can mean for you. He says, a door knob could be your higher power if you want. Personally, I've been going to a SMART meeting and been reading the SMART Handbook. Something you might want to check out.
Really glad things are turning around. They are for me and my wife too.
jk
Been off the thread for a while and glad things have improved. I replied early on, when you first posted. I got an ultimatum too.
I'm not a fan of the "higher power" in AA either. A friend who's an athiest going to AA feels there's a lot of alternative to what Higher Power can mean for you. He says, a door knob could be your higher power if you want. Personally, I've been going to a SMART meeting and been reading the SMART Handbook. Something you might want to check out.
Really glad things are turning around. They are for me and my wife too.
jk
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Originally Posted by Sprtslife
My sons 3, and my 15 year old daughter couldn't love me more. I don't miss any of my kids activities, and I'm the first one at night playing with my son on the floor, while my wife is on the couch eating candy and going outside to smoke cigarettes. Please.
I can PROMISE you that- at least for your 15 year old- you are not as awesome and loveable a dad as you think. I say that as someone whose mom's alcoholism took hold when I was 11. We (the kids) KNOW.
I have thoughts similar to others (see Dee, for example) but just had to comment specifically on this. If you get sober, I am 100% certain you will be a better father.
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