Low down drinking situation
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Low down drinking situation
I'm drinking again tonight, after the initial "hype" about me stopping on my birthday, I'm sorry
My (ex) girlfriend called me yesterday, saying she's upset because people are posting pictures from my previous birthdays showing all the apparent good times I've had and how none of it involved her
I provided reassurance that this was not the case
Anyway the main thing is I'm drinking again, self pity, misery and the feeling I'm locked down to a life of misery like this. I do t want to waste anyone's time. I do genuinely need to stop this hell, I'm making a meal of this situation now
My (ex) girlfriend called me yesterday, saying she's upset because people are posting pictures from my previous birthdays showing all the apparent good times I've had and how none of it involved her
I provided reassurance that this was not the case
Anyway the main thing is I'm drinking again, self pity, misery and the feeling I'm locked down to a life of misery like this. I do t want to waste anyone's time. I do genuinely need to stop this hell, I'm making a meal of this situation now
I'm curious what you hope to gain when you post that you're drinking again?
We don't have the answer you are looking for, it's within you. If we had the answer, you would have quit a long time ago.
It's up to you. Drink or don't, not a lot we can say at this point. It's all been said. When you make the decision to stop your misery, you'll stop. It's just that.
We don't have the answer you are looking for, it's within you. If we had the answer, you would have quit a long time ago.
It's up to you. Drink or don't, not a lot we can say at this point. It's all been said. When you make the decision to stop your misery, you'll stop. It's just that.
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Stewy, there will always be reasons to drink. That will never end. The bottom line is you drink cause you want to drink. Your drinking has nothing to do with your girlfriend or anything else. There just reasons to keep doing what your doing. You've mentioned nothing about going to meetings or getting a therapist other than a phone call. You said you can get involved in a CBT program but you haven't said you will do this. Look Stewy; a person can be offered the sun and the moon, but if they want to continue to drink, none of that will make any difference. John
Stewy, we are all here for you. But, YOU are the one who has to make the decision and to make this work.
Your best bet for improving your life is to stop drinking.
Your best bet for spiralling down quickly is to continue drinking.
Stewy, we care. Please care for yourself.
Your best bet for improving your life is to stop drinking.
Your best bet for spiralling down quickly is to continue drinking.
Stewy, we care. Please care for yourself.
I'm drinking again tonight, after the initial "hype" about me stopping on my birthday, I'm sorry
My (ex) girlfriend called me yesterday, saying she's upset because people are posting pictures from my previous birthdays showing all the apparent good times I've had and how none of it involved her
I provided reassurance that this was not the case
Anyway the main thing is I'm drinking again, self pity, misery and the feeling I'm locked down to a life of misery like this. I do t want to waste anyone's time. I do genuinely need to stop this hell, I'm making a meal of this situation now
My (ex) girlfriend called me yesterday, saying she's upset because people are posting pictures from my previous birthdays showing all the apparent good times I've had and how none of it involved her
I provided reassurance that this was not the case
Anyway the main thing is I'm drinking again, self pity, misery and the feeling I'm locked down to a life of misery like this. I do t want to waste anyone's time. I do genuinely need to stop this hell, I'm making a meal of this situation now
This drunk life is BS...let's get the h+ll out of this mess...together we are strong!!
As Nike says 'Just Do It' sounds simple enough but when anyone is caught up in it it's anything but, this is why stopping is so important it's got to be you who wants this forget everything going on right now & focus on step 1 remaining sober
Coming here everyday without fail show your addiction your here & your not giving it to the irrationality of it all
Meetings whether AA or Smart brother you will learn something new guaranteed you can just listen which is what I did
NO SELF PITY - Give yourself 0% Tolerance on this it will mess up your head and is super destructive instead keep showing up and start to praise what you are doing right like showing up today being a great dad a good son a decent human being that's the real you Stewy don't try to hide it embrace it
Know you are not & never will be alone you have my full support no matter what your a tough cookie Stewy you have got over big hurdles before i know you can get through this
Do whatever it takes
No more drinking no matter what just don't if your hurting then hurt sober if you cry then cry sober if you love them love sober let it be not contaminated by poison brother things will work out
With you all the way
Coming here everyday without fail show your addiction your here & your not giving it to the irrationality of it all
Meetings whether AA or Smart brother you will learn something new guaranteed you can just listen which is what I did
NO SELF PITY - Give yourself 0% Tolerance on this it will mess up your head and is super destructive instead keep showing up and start to praise what you are doing right like showing up today being a great dad a good son a decent human being that's the real you Stewy don't try to hide it embrace it
Know you are not & never will be alone you have my full support no matter what your a tough cookie Stewy you have got over big hurdles before i know you can get through this
Do whatever it takes
No more drinking no matter what just don't if your hurting then hurt sober if you cry then cry sober if you love them love sober let it be not contaminated by poison brother things will work out
With you all the way
If you're complicating the process - simplify it.
all you need to do today is not pour booze down your neck.
It may be hard to do - you may feel, sad, or angry or full of self pity...
you may feel despair and wonder what the point is of getting sober..
all that is AV static.
Your addiction is anti progress & anti change....but the way through lies up ahead, not the way you've been.
I hope you're really ready to take that first step and not double back Stewy - there's nothing worse than wasting years like this - you deserve better, your daughter deserves better and your folks deserve better too.
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When I was drinking (and when I was sober with no recovery work as well) I was very reactive. If something happened that caused me to feel emotions (especially negative ones, but often even positive celebratory ones) I was just like a puppet to those feelings. As I've grown up a bit through my recovery work I've been able to be more contemplative and exercise some wisdom - making the choices that will be most likely to result in long term peace, rather than grabbing for instant relief or gratification. When I first went to AA it seemed like no one was talking about alcohol that much - and they weren't really. They were too busy talking about the solution instead of the problem.
I think that we get better by thinking about the solution (different ways of dealing with things) instead of drowning ourselves in self pity about the problem. Self pity is like poison for the soul, second only to resentment.
Time to make a plan? If it starts getting tricky you could share what you've done so far on here and ask people for suggestions. We're rooting for you, but you do need to start getting recovery focussed if you want to achieve long term and healthy sobriety, and none of us can do that for you, no matter how much we might wish we could. You have be willing to make your plan. And you need to be willing to stick to it, and actually do it. Even if you don't really feel like it (tbh, especially when you dont feel like it!) http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...y-plans-1.html
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I'm curious what you hope to gain when you post that you're drinking again?
We don't have the answer you are looking for, it's within you. If we had the answer, you would have quit a long time ago.
It's up to you. Drink or don't, not a lot we can say at this point. It's all been said. When you make the decision to stop your misery, you'll stop. It's just that.
We don't have the answer you are looking for, it's within you. If we had the answer, you would have quit a long time ago.
It's up to you. Drink or don't, not a lot we can say at this point. It's all been said. When you make the decision to stop your misery, you'll stop. It's just that.
Ex girlfriend
Pictures
Social media
Birthdays
The list could go on - it is all noise that keeps your focus and you keep on drinking.
It's truthful, not unkind, to tell you that we cannot help you- nor can anyone else or any other group etc- if you don't want to and choose to stop drinking.
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It sounds like the train won't stop and you can't get off though you want to. Have you had a chat with your Dr? That's what I did when I felt like that and it helped. I truly wanted it though and was prepared to do the work if I had some sort of help - I.e medication and counselling in my case.
Good luck, it's not a fun place to be trapped in that vicious cycle.... the highs just aren't worth the horrid lows.... and the toll on your body (mentally and physically).
Good luck, it's not a fun place to be trapped in that vicious cycle.... the highs just aren't worth the horrid lows.... and the toll on your body (mentally and physically).
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