Irritability?
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Join Date: Apr 2017
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Irritability?
I'm at the end of Day 5, which I'm super happy about! I feel great physically and my entire household has benefitted from a sober mom/wife. However this evening I am so cranky I can barely stand myself!! I'm generally a pretty easygoing person (even when I'm not drinking) so this feels foreign to me. Every little thing is getting on my last nerve! Part of withdrawal??
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Oh yes, I also felt very irritated over the most inconsequential things. It was ridiculous. But, it seems to be part of the process of learning to manage emotions without benefit of alcohol. Try to remember they are just emotions and you can let them go.
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Freedom, the irritability is normal. I hated everyone and everything for months after I quit drinking. It fluctuated like the roller coaster that Carl mentioned. It did get better as time passed.
On a different front and someone else's story, my husband has been attempting to stay sober and I can tell for sure when he's experiencing any cravings because he's generally crabby and short tempered.
Hopefully for you it passes. Ride it out. Take time to yourself when you're feeling especially short tempered. Tell yourself that this too shall pass.
On a different front and someone else's story, my husband has been attempting to stay sober and I can tell for sure when he's experiencing any cravings because he's generally crabby and short tempered.
Hopefully for you it passes. Ride it out. Take time to yourself when you're feeling especially short tempered. Tell yourself that this too shall pass.
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Oh my goodness yes..I am on Day 13 and today is seriously the first day I haven't been absolutely foul.. From Day three to Day 11, I thought I was going to alienate every person I knew because my fuse was so short and I could not tolerate any annoyance. . I did manage to alienate a co-worker and I have to fix that. I can't even approach her yet in person ( I did email her) because I cannot trust myself to not be vile if she pushes my buttons! I have worked at my job for 28 years and have good relationships there. I kept thinking how ironic it would be to be fired for getting sober rather than for being the drunk I was because the drunk was nice but the sober person was a total B!
Thank God, it lessened today. I have fingers crossed for tomorrow. You hang in ther and so will I. Everybody else hang in there too!
Thank God, it lessened today. I have fingers crossed for tomorrow. You hang in ther and so will I. Everybody else hang in there too!
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Part of withdrawal - part of recovery!!
I have found that during days, my sobriety journey to date, there have been ups and downs mood wise that gradually evened out. Four months was a particularly irritable point as was 90 days (exactly, that day!) and 9 mos. Learning to deal with it more evenly and quickly, and knowing that it will pass- using my tools learned through AA and spiritual study - has been key.
Great job on six days- keep going. Work a program. It gets better and better in every way.
I have found that during days, my sobriety journey to date, there have been ups and downs mood wise that gradually evened out. Four months was a particularly irritable point as was 90 days (exactly, that day!) and 9 mos. Learning to deal with it more evenly and quickly, and knowing that it will pass- using my tools learned through AA and spiritual study - has been key.
Great job on six days- keep going. Work a program. It gets better and better in every way.
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I can SO relate! I have this trigger-time around 4-6pm every night. I get anxious, irritable and just pissed off. The thing that helps me is getting OUT of my house! I'll take my dog for a walk, water my back flowers, or even go to the gym or yoga studio. At the very least, I'll go into my bedroom, with the air on high, lights out, lay down and rest and TALK to myself.
Like others have said, these feelings WILL pass. We all have feelings, but reacting to them is our CHOICE. I've found that the AV (addict voice) is something I've started to call-out. Whenever I start to rationalize or slip back to those "thoughts" I recognize right away who's talking. Not ME. So it's almost powerful to divide my correct thoughts with the AV, and take charge of my reactions to my own thinking.
Who knew this was all so MENTAL? I'm a trainer and constantly telling my clients to get "mentally tough" when they want to stop an exercise. I need to take my own advice. So far, it's working. Good luck and keep posting! We all need each other to get thru!
Like others have said, these feelings WILL pass. We all have feelings, but reacting to them is our CHOICE. I've found that the AV (addict voice) is something I've started to call-out. Whenever I start to rationalize or slip back to those "thoughts" I recognize right away who's talking. Not ME. So it's almost powerful to divide my correct thoughts with the AV, and take charge of my reactions to my own thinking.
Who knew this was all so MENTAL? I'm a trainer and constantly telling my clients to get "mentally tough" when they want to stop an exercise. I need to take my own advice. So far, it's working. Good luck and keep posting! We all need each other to get thru!
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I was never irritable. It's just that for the first 90 days or so that I was sober everyone around me was so stupid. They were rude and inconsiderate. Some of them were even out to get me.
I'm so glad they eventually got smarter and clamed down.
I'm so glad they eventually got smarter and clamed down.
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