Faith Weekender 01-04 December 2016
saoutchik
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: London
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Evening everyone, another busy day at work but i think things will quieten down any day now. For the last 35 years or more my hair has been cut by one or other of two Greek Cypriot women but they have decided to go back to GC to live so i must try to find an evening opening barbers somewhere. Change is a good thing I suppose
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Join Date: May 2016
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Hi everyone ! I am trying to share more in my efforts to stop my addiction which is alcohol but I can basically take anything that take me outside my self. My faith began to crumble when I was 20 years old my sister who was 33 got diagnosed with stage 4 brain cancer and she died within six months. I stopped believing in anything and relied on my self to feel good named alcohol.
I wanted to forget I'm be happy but it worked for a time and then stopped working. Now a piece of my life that took me here and this mess thank you for listening it sounds like I am on my sorry me face when I will be normsl
I wanted to forget I'm be happy but it worked for a time and then stopped working. Now a piece of my life that took me here and this mess thank you for listening it sounds like I am on my sorry me face when I will be normsl
saoutchik
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: London
Posts: 16,209
Morning everyone
Soberandhealthy that is truly sad about your sister but i am glad to see you here, thank you for posting.
By the time i took my last drink any grain of happiness I ever got out of alcohol had long gone and I had no expectation of finding it but my addiction made me drink anyway. Hell by most definitions
To reduce the cravings in early recovery it is a really good idea to have something that requires you to concentrate, like an online game or physical occupation - for me it was online Sudoku but it mights be word based or arts maybe. Our mind tells us we are craving but of course it is a lie as we don't actually "need" drink (just the opposite in fact) If you can occupy your mind with something time passes and the craving goes, its like cheating your AV which is great. You can do this
Soberandhealthy that is truly sad about your sister but i am glad to see you here, thank you for posting.
By the time i took my last drink any grain of happiness I ever got out of alcohol had long gone and I had no expectation of finding it but my addiction made me drink anyway. Hell by most definitions
To reduce the cravings in early recovery it is a really good idea to have something that requires you to concentrate, like an online game or physical occupation - for me it was online Sudoku but it mights be word based or arts maybe. Our mind tells us we are craving but of course it is a lie as we don't actually "need" drink (just the opposite in fact) If you can occupy your mind with something time passes and the craving goes, its like cheating your AV which is great. You can do this
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Do your best
Join Date: Aug 2014
Posts: 67,047
Sao your post reminded me of when the same happened to me heres a past post of mine reminiscing about that experience
Ok so il explain what happened first time round .. I was reading Steve peters the chimp paradox and on the subject of mental gremlins I really thought it was a great way at unlearning negative behaviours in this case only letting 2 people in that barbers cut my hair because I just wouldn't trust a new barber if I didn't have to
Anyway so I go to the barbers around the time I was reading this gremlin chapter and lo & behold my barbers are not there & a new barber is so I thought I'd put my new thinking into action and let the new barber cut my hair you know get rid of that gremlin right ?
As luck would have it I said short but not too short and he kind of went at my head with what turned out to be 0.5 on the clippers in that swift moment I saw my reflection and just started laughing I was touching it don't know why I did that because it wasn't coming back the barber knew I was mortified briefly but I kept cool and said continue and although very short it didn't look too bad but I did have alopecia at the time & forgot my hat so i just grinned and bared it (litrelly)
So today I go to get my haircut knowing full well my barbers are on holiday & it's the guy who I've just mentioned he was in a good mood I think he was expecting me to leave but I already knew & planned for this guy to cut my hair call it crazy but to really exorcise that gremlin this was going to happen
As it turned out I fully explained what I wanted & not like last time he done a fantastic job and he got a tip for doing so I actually think he cuts really well & won't have a problem if my barbers are ever away again
Props to Steve peters & the chimp paradox
Ok so il explain what happened first time round .. I was reading Steve peters the chimp paradox and on the subject of mental gremlins I really thought it was a great way at unlearning negative behaviours in this case only letting 2 people in that barbers cut my hair because I just wouldn't trust a new barber if I didn't have to
Anyway so I go to the barbers around the time I was reading this gremlin chapter and lo & behold my barbers are not there & a new barber is so I thought I'd put my new thinking into action and let the new barber cut my hair you know get rid of that gremlin right ?
As luck would have it I said short but not too short and he kind of went at my head with what turned out to be 0.5 on the clippers in that swift moment I saw my reflection and just started laughing I was touching it don't know why I did that because it wasn't coming back the barber knew I was mortified briefly but I kept cool and said continue and although very short it didn't look too bad but I did have alopecia at the time & forgot my hat so i just grinned and bared it (litrelly)
So today I go to get my haircut knowing full well my barbers are on holiday & it's the guy who I've just mentioned he was in a good mood I think he was expecting me to leave but I already knew & planned for this guy to cut my hair call it crazy but to really exorcise that gremlin this was going to happen
As it turned out I fully explained what I wanted & not like last time he done a fantastic job and he got a tip for doing so I actually think he cuts really well & won't have a problem if my barbers are ever away again
Props to Steve peters & the chimp paradox
Do your best
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Originally Posted by mecanix 
hey all ,
just passing by so thought id pop in and say hello
glad to see milestones being achieved ,
glad to see ya SW sober and working on stuff , keep on
later , m
just passing by so thought id pop in and say hello
glad to see milestones being achieved ,
glad to see ya SW sober and working on stuff , keep on
later , m
Sober since October
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: In the world in my eyes...Somewhere I've never been before...
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Hi, weekenders. I am still wobbling between crazy time at work and depression.
I have to move my new apartment before new year, and it is not ready yet. I hope that my upcoming paycheck will allow me to get a flush toilet and a sink. I still have no idea how I am going to cook food or wash my clothes. One thing at a time, I suppose.
Soberwolf -really great to see you!
Sao -maybe, look at your haircut as getting rid of old stuff before entering new year?
My hugs to all.
See you.
I have to move my new apartment before new year, and it is not ready yet. I hope that my upcoming paycheck will allow me to get a flush toilet and a sink. I still have no idea how I am going to cook food or wash my clothes. One thing at a time, I suppose.
Soberwolf -really great to see you!
Sao -maybe, look at your haircut as getting rid of old stuff before entering new year?
My hugs to all.
See you.
Sober since October
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: In the world in my eyes...Somewhere I've never been before...
Posts: 7,355
Thank you, Gilmer. Though the crisis is still not over. I am so tired that I just made the stupidest mistake in a very important document and I just don't know what to do now.
I have lots of things besides work on my mind and my thoughts are all over the place.
I am constantly depressed and it's hard to get myself together.
I have lots of things besides work on my mind and my thoughts are all over the place.
I am constantly depressed and it's hard to get myself together.
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