The only way out is through
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The only way out is through
There is no quick fix. There is no alcoholic beverage which will take the unease away. There is no magic potion which will erase the past or undo the hurt I've caused to myself or others.
The ONLY solution is to sit with the muck for a bit and then choose to keep going forward. The only way out of this mess I've made, is to crawl/ walk/ run through it.
Feeling low and stressed today, but I have 11 sober days under my belt and soon enough it will be 12, 13, 14...
The ONLY solution is to sit with the muck for a bit and then choose to keep going forward. The only way out of this mess I've made, is to crawl/ walk/ run through it.
Feeling low and stressed today, but I have 11 sober days under my belt and soon enough it will be 12, 13, 14...
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The hardest thing ever, once I stopped drinking, was to sit with something that was troubling to me. Prior to sobriety I would zoom for the bottle. Does it get easier? I guess so. You're right, though, noneever. The only way out is through. Congratulations on 11 days. See you on the other side.
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Yes, that's so true. Realizing this is a big step towards recovery. You know what you have to do, and now you can begin working on it. You will come out the other side a better person. 
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Early in sobriety I read this - of course I had, continue to make amends where possible. But I found this helpful;
“Chronic remorse, as all the moralists are agreed, is a most undesirable sentiment. If you have behaved badly, repent, make what amends you can and address yourself to the task of behaving better next time. On no account brood over your wrongdoing. Rolling in the muck is not the best way of getting clean.”
― Aldous Huxley, Brave New World
“Chronic remorse, as all the moralists are agreed, is a most undesirable sentiment. If you have behaved badly, repent, make what amends you can and address yourself to the task of behaving better next time. On no account brood over your wrongdoing. Rolling in the muck is not the best way of getting clean.”
― Aldous Huxley, Brave New World
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Congrats on 11 days. Yep...can't go over it, or under it, only through it.
Ya know I had some pretty bad news last week. Scary news. Uncertain news. All the stuff I dont do well with. Well what do I do? I of course start to catastrophize/awfulize. I panic. I get angry.....this all happened within 30 seconds after the phone call. Well being that I'm trying to change, I stop myself. Ok. I can't control this. There is nothing more I can do in this moment. I have an apt Monday but even then I won't get much more info for maybe a week. So, I can freak out, panic, stress, blame the world, whine, throw a pity party and maybe drink. Or I can let it go. Trust that it won't be too bad. Thy will be done. I chose the latter. And the cool part? I am truly not as scared. Ok what's my friggin point? The past and future do not exist. All that matters is what we do right here and now. Sorry for the ramble......
Ya know I had some pretty bad news last week. Scary news. Uncertain news. All the stuff I dont do well with. Well what do I do? I of course start to catastrophize/awfulize. I panic. I get angry.....this all happened within 30 seconds after the phone call. Well being that I'm trying to change, I stop myself. Ok. I can't control this. There is nothing more I can do in this moment. I have an apt Monday but even then I won't get much more info for maybe a week. So, I can freak out, panic, stress, blame the world, whine, throw a pity party and maybe drink. Or I can let it go. Trust that it won't be too bad. Thy will be done. I chose the latter. And the cool part? I am truly not as scared. Ok what's my friggin point? The past and future do not exist. All that matters is what we do right here and now. Sorry for the ramble......
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Very helpful thread nonever. All that you said is true.
In my early days of trying to quit I became terrified as the memories surfaced. As the others have said - we can't sabotage ourselves by allowing the regrets & remorse to overtake us as we're trying to get well. At times we have to let the fear & feelings wash over us for a bit - then resolve to rise above it all & walk on. You're doing great.
In my early days of trying to quit I became terrified as the memories surfaced. As the others have said - we can't sabotage ourselves by allowing the regrets & remorse to overtake us as we're trying to get well. At times we have to let the fear & feelings wash over us for a bit - then resolve to rise above it all & walk on. You're doing great.
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Originally Posted by noneever 
There is no quick fix. There is no alcoholic beverage which will take the unease away. There is no magic potion which will erase the past or undo the hurt I've caused to myself or others.
The ONLY solution is to sit with the muck for a bit and then choose to keep going forward. The only way out of this mess I've made, is to crawl/ walk/ run through it.
Feeling low and stressed today, but I have 11 sober days under my belt and soon enough it will be 12, 13, 14...
The ONLY solution is to sit with the muck for a bit and then choose to keep going forward. The only way out of this mess I've made, is to crawl/ walk/ run through it.
Feeling low and stressed today, but I have 11 sober days under my belt and soon enough it will be 12, 13, 14...
It will be all the more rewarding because it was hard.
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